Thank you for your honesty
Your particular parenting choices severely curtail your ability to socialize with other adults. Few people in their early to mid twenties want to do toddler-focused activities to the exclusion of all other activities, even mothers. Most young mothers like doing things without their toddlers, or interacting with each other directly rather than through their toddlers. If your parenting values make this impossible for you, then its likely to be a real obstacle in making friends.
mmm...I didn't say I wanted it to be JUST about our kids. Socializing is fun, but I don't agree with Moms over here, kids over there....who cares what they are doing, who they are hurting, cause we're busy bs'ing. lol. The way I see it is I made the choice to bring my children into this world, they didn't ask to be here. They are my #1 priority and all other things need to fall into place without me having to choose my kids/values or them.
You admit that you're judgmental. You sound judgmental. Saying things like "everyone my age is out living a carefree life or having kids and still going out partying doing drugs/drinking/acting neglectful and I just cannot respect that" is judgmental. People don't like to be judged - it alienates them, and makes them not want to go out of their way to be your friend.
I meant everyone my age (that I know) is. And they are. I don't know what to say about that...it's not a judgment, really...it's the truth.
you choose to live in a way that provides you with few opportunities, then you have to be more flexible with your standards or your lifestyle. How are you even supposed to find other people like yourself when they'd also be at home baking cookies?
lol I'm not couped up 24/7. I just meant, instead of being out partying I'm at home with my kids. I still go out during the day. I actually went to a nice playgroup yesterday and met a few cool women that were more along my lines. So I know it's possible.
I think nycoffee is right. I don't think there is anything wrong with having standards for the people that you bring into your life, and quality is far more import than quantity. I just want friends I can relate to, and that wont take offense when I simply discuss things I do as a parent, I don't think that's too much to ask, and I guess... no I'm not willing to compromise on it because that would just make me be fake around people, and I'm so not that person lol
thanks for your opinion though
I really appreciate it!!