I have a friend who admittedly does have her plate full. She's very unhappy and has been that way for years. She does so much for other people, she goes to church and prays and all in all, just has a good heart, but isn't very happy.
I was just doing my dishes and thinking about her and it made me think of myself back at a time when I wasn't very happy either. I had busied myself w/ everyday things and the caring for my family but didn't really do much for myself. I was easily angered when my husband didn't do things that I thought he should. One day, I had a bit of an epiphany. I decided that I really was the only person that could make me happy and that only I knew what areas of my life seemed empty. I decided that it was my job to fill them up and if I was a better me, maybe I would be happier and be a better everything to everyone else too. Guess what? I was right. I was lonely and depending on my husband to fill all of that. But, he was busy supporting our family which was very important too. I was out of shape and not feeling great about me...again, only something I could do something about. Sitting and waiting for someone to fix me was making me miserable. I went out and signed up for an activity w/ my kids. It gave me time with them, it got me in shape, which made me feel better about myself and somehow, made me not so mad at my husband for not entertaining me...lol The problem was within myself. Lesson learned.
I can see this scenerio with my friend (not exact, but similiar). I listen to her often talking about her unhappiness and loneliness. She wants her husband to fix it, he can't. He has his own stresses to deal with. Would it be wrong to tell her that the problem that needs to be fixed is inside herself? It is hard to see the forest for the trees when you are in the middle of it, but it's right there. How does a friend help lead a friend out without making them upset or seeming to be a bit of a know it all. Should they even try or are some things better left unsaid?
Another question: Do you think when we focus on the negative things in our lives instead of what we have that we invite more negativity?