This would be a really frustrating situation to be in, and I know how tough it is when you don't want to do something that you believe is wrong, but your family insists you do it anyway.
I am not sure exactly what to tell you to do here, but so far, it seems like you're doing the right thing: When a customer asks you if the curry is vegetarian, you're telling them that it has pork juice, even with the added consequence of getting in trouble. You've talked to your family, who owns the restaurant, about making the curry vegetarian. So far, you're controlling the situation as far as you can. I would not hold you responsible for the actions of your family, and would be grateful if I asked you about the curry and you told me the truth. Unfortunately, the trick here is to ask you.
Your choices beyond this point are really tough ones:
a) You could recognize that you are not responsible for your family's actions and have done everything you can to confront them on the issue and try to change the situation. You can't control other people no matter how much you try. Your responsibility does not extend beyond this point. I understand that if you feel like you are responsible for the actions of your family -- which is common -- this can be a tough choice to live with.
b) You could rock the boat so hard it tips and possibly capsizes. Some people have more of a stomach for shaking up their families and relationships than others. You can press the situation with your family so hard that one of two things has to happen: Your family finally gives up and starts serving the curry vegetarian, or your family finds some way to make you shut up and resents you. (Not intending "Finding some way to make you shut up" as a euphemism for harm! I just realized that sounded really bad.)
c) Get an outside party to take some kind of action -- possibly legal -- to change the situation. Though it's less likely to drive a rift between you and your family, your family may -- justly or not -- blame you for it anyway.
I don't know your folks, and am basing these assumptions based on personal impressions from what you've told me. It would be nice if businesses would please their customers by using honest practices. Honesty has been a problem since someone offered to trade a stick for a stone.
I do hope things improve whatever you decide to do.
Originally Posted by mingster
This is kindda just a rant.
I have no clue what to do. My parents insists on telling her customers, that our curry is veg*n but it's not.
Today this vegatrian came in and she said is her order all vegetarian (she ordered a curry, plus other things.) my sister said "yes". (I was on the phone with another customer. Not a good excuse I know but your not living my life so cut me a break. I feel bad enough.)
Later I talked to my parents about this issue again
about turning our curry into a veggie one (no pork juice, we aren't the only ones who do it. I know many others that use other animal derivatives. But thats besides the point at the moment.) They had a really big argument with me and I just left it at that. I really want to talk them around the matter. Yet I don't want to cause problems for their buisness by telling exsiting veggie cutomers that are regulars that are curry isn't veggie. (new veggie customers I do tell if they ask.) I'm just really stuck and I feel like I can't do anything about how they think of it, as they keep saying "I'M NOT ASKING YOU TO EAT IT!, JUST SHUT UP ABOUT IT!" to me. My big sister doesn't feel bad about it at all and her veggie friends eat at our place every so oftern. I just can't seem to make them understand some people think of it as a HUGE thing and they are disrespecting them.
Sorry for the lenthy post. Anyone got any clue as to what I can do without causing major problems to them. If your going to insult me I can live with that as well.