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#1 Old 07-30-2009, 02:14 PM
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Hi all., I recently broke up with my gf after several years. One of the problems was me being veggie and she a meat-eater. We always had separate meals as she didn't like veggie food and I didn't want to eat meat.

Well, anyway, I was wondering where do I start to meet like-minded ladies and get back into dating? I mean there's no veggie singles nights in the MK postcode area in the UK - or is there?



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#2 Old 07-31-2009, 01:15 PM
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Contact the vegetarian society - I think they have lists of these things.
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#3 Old 07-31-2009, 02:19 PM
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There are some online veg dating sites. Just google for them, and you should find a few.



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#4 Old 07-31-2009, 02:53 PM
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Thanks for the tips, yeah the society would be good - I didn't think about that. Also those veggie dating sites could be interesting too - I'll check them out.



I have a sense of profound loneliness since over the years I dropped my friends cos I was devoted to my gf. Now she's gone I seem to be left with little TBH just a big hole in my life and no sense of the future. I guess that's what other people in my situation feel but it's hugely depressing.

That's why I had a bright idea of socialising again but with like minded veggies since all that explaining, problems with restaurant meals, having to give lists of what I can and cannot eat at family gatherings, and things like that, fills me with dread.

I figured it would be easier to give it up and eat meat again but I'm not going back to that again. I can't even bear the thought of it. So I say to myself find your veggie soulmate, one who's as easy-going as you - she's out there, I just gotta keep going till I find happiness again.



Any words of encouragement or tips from those who have been in this situation would be most welcome. I'll send good karma at you!



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Hey Chris,



A break-up can be depressing enough, let alone trying to fill the time you spent with the other person. Add being a veggie and it separates you even more.



My husband is a vegetarian but was an Omni prior to meeting me. All my ex's have been omni's and I wouldn't limit myself by only looking at veggies since they are a small part of society. If I had done that I wouldn't have given my hubby a chance



Chatting on here is a fantastic idea to start getting to know the like minded people you are looking for. I know when i found VB I was so happy and relieved. I don't know too many veggies in real life so this was a blessing.



Keep smiling and spend some time with us & others



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You can find omnivores to date who are respectful and will listen intently as opposed to defensively (and hopefully you do the same for them).
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I find dating scary and exciting. Like was said there are a few places to look online that you may meet new people.

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#8 Old 07-31-2009, 06:06 PM
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Maybe try finding a veg group in your area on meetup.com?
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My husband is a vegetarian but was an Omni prior to meeting me. All my ex's have been omni's and I wouldn't limit myself by only looking at veggies since they are a small part of society. If I had done that I wouldn't have given my hubby a chance



Seconded! Like-minded is great for a lot of things, but I personally don't think it's absolutely NECESSARY in terms of whether someone is a vegan, vegetarian, or omnivore.



RESPECT, however, is necessary. Along with intelligence and compassion.



And a respectful, intelligent, compassionate omnivore might simply be a vegetarian or vegan waiting to happen.



I was an omnivore not so long ago. My boyfriend is an omnivore now. But I've noticed since I went vegan, it's engendered a lot of respectful conversations, thought, and perhaps (fingers crossed) some changed minds and attitudes and diets! Not just with the boyfriend, but with friends and family alike. Mom has begun changing her diet and she's doing it slowly - she's at two vegetarian days per week, and is heading to three next. Yay!



Finding someone new can be tough (especially if you're LOOKING... The man for me came when I had all but given up on dating!) but it'll be even tougher if you limit by their current diet.



The perfect girl for you might not be a vegetarian, or she might not be a vegetarian YET. Maybe she needs to meet YOU to become inspired!



And remember that devotion to a girlfriend shouldn't mean forsaking ALL friendships. Friends and socialization outside a relationship are important too...



Keep on keepin' on. And keep posting here! It's a welcome haven when you just don't feel like dealing with the meat-eating world.



Best of luck to you, in all your endeavors.



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I was an omnivore when I met my compassionate and wonderful vegetarian boyfriend. At first, he rubbed off on me and I became vegetarian too. Now I've rubbed off on him - I'm a vegan, and so his he about 80% of the time.



You might be poised to change someone's life by being a living example of what a compassionate lifestyle can do for their health, mood, and overall outlook on life. You just don't know it yet.
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#11 Old 08-01-2009, 09:54 AM
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I just wanted to say hi and I know how you feel. Break up are terrible. Im vegetarian, and divorced and havent had a date in nearly 4years, cause i havent really found anyone worth anything, id prefer to met a veggie head like my self but no luck. anyways all i can say is hang in there and keep looking, and if you ever want to chat holla at me.
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Thanks for the tips, yeah the society would be good - I didn't think about that. Also those veggie dating sites could be interesting too - I'll check them out.



I have a sense of profound loneliness since over the years I dropped my friends cos I was devoted to my gf. Now she's gone I seem to be left with little TBH just a big hole in my life and no sense of the future. I guess that's what other people in my situation feel but it's hugely depressing.

That's why I had a bright idea of socialising again but with like minded veggies since all that explaining, problems with restaurant meals, having to give lists of what I can and cannot eat at family gatherings, and things like that, fills me with dread.

I figured it would be easier to give it up and eat meat again but I'm not going back to that again. I can't even bear the thought of it. So I say to myself find your veggie soulmate, one who's as easy-going as you - she's out there, I just gotta keep going till I find happiness again.



Any words of encouragement or tips from those who have been in this situation would be most welcome. I'll send good karma at you!



Hello there, I am so sorry to hear about your breakup. No matter whether you and your ex got along well or agreed on things or not, it always hurts to go through that.



Honestly, since you say you dropped your friends because of your girlfriend, I would work on socializing and meeting some new friends first before finding a new girlfriend. Are any of your old friends still in your life? Would they be willing to be friends with you again? Dropping your friends for a significant other is never a good idea because if it ends, you end up being very lonely, as you have found out, and your former friends may resent you for abandoning them.



I would say just go to vegetarian/vegan meetups or meetings of other things you are interested in that are in your area with the intention of just socializing and meeting friends. Try to meet some new people, and enjoy having a social life and participating in activities that you like, either with your friends or on your own. You need to have some solid platonic friendships and a rewarding single life with varied interests, or else you will be A) boring and B) susceptible to loneliness whether or not you find a new love interest.



Once you have some friendships and are comfortable with your single life, veggie dating sites could be a good start. Honestly, though, most of them have a pretty limited selection, as they don't have a great deal of members. It's actually not terribly difficult to find veggie or veggie-friendly people on normal dating sites, so you night give that a try as well. Veggieboards could also be a good place to start talking to like-minded people!



Whatever you end up doing, good luck to you. Many people have similar experiences, so you are not alone! *sends positive energy*



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#13 Old 08-02-2009, 06:33 AM
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Hey thanks all for your lovely messages.

I'm glad I reached out like that, you've picked me up and given me hope. I'm so glad I discovered this forum full of lovely people.

I got some recovering to do, stop feeling sorry for myself and get out there!



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Veggieboards could also be a good place to start talking to like-minded people!



We should have a dating thread here if there isn't one already...
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We should have a dating thread here if there isn't one already...



There's been atleast one in the past.
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We should have a dating thread here if there isn't one already...

There is one here buried in this topic area.



I have been meeting people lately and not so impressed. I guess I am growing up a bit.

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On a different thread I'm talking about an ex-girlfriend. An absolutely HUGE motivator for her breaking up with me is that I pretty much let my other friendships slide. It may be exciting for awhile to limit social interaction to each other, but ultimately ... no good.



Whatever happens will probably happen when you least expect it. I stop looking for a vegetarian ... BAM! I find a vegan. Ask one gal out but get turned down? BAM! A series of unlikely events lead out of that and I end up reconnecting with an old flame. So I go from NO real prospects to TWO possibilities. Phew.



(Possibilities, not probabilities. Just keeping an open mind!)

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