Originally Posted by sararie
she doesn't seem to care anything about the baby. she used to, but not anymore. everytime she would cry and i wasn't right on it, miss betsy would come and hunt me down. now, she just peers out if there is noise and shakes.
but I'm sure that when the baby arrived, the energy in the house changed at least a little which is why I asked if that was around the time she fell back to her old ways
most times, to get her in the house, I will call and she will run to the door, but she hesitates coming in or will come in then hop right out. sometimes if i just leave it open she will come in, but i have sat and watched her come in and out a dozen times. it's like she wants to but something is holding her back.
She may be waiting for your reaction. If you go outside and try to coax her to go into the house with affection, then she will relate the reward to being outside and not to you wanting her to go in.
Have you tried standing a few feet inside and rewarding her with a small treat when she reaches you? Never give the treat if she doesn't come in. Slowly stand further away. Occasionally offer affection in place of treats. Be consistent. Once this is done often enough, you should be able to have her do it on her own without treats. Every now and then, give her one just to let her know she did good, but not every time. Eventually she will relate coming in with positive rewards.
i find that if she doesn't come in the first time (and she will stand outside doing her big bassett bark) then i just close the door and the curtain and come back a few minutes later. usually this will get her to come in.
Probably because you are showing her that you are the alpha and she has to do it on your terms. That's a good thing.
she heads right to it and straight to her kennel. we tried not to have one (kennel) she had a pillow that she used to sit on and watch people from, but once she starting hiding in the bdrm it wasn't enough and we had to give the kennel to her.
I'm a big fan of crates and so are my dogs.
Have you tried moving the crate into the living room and keeping the bedroom door shut? Where do you feed her at?
every so often, i used to catch her on our old sofa by the computer, but my hubby says no doggies on the couch. I would let her have it at this point if she would just come out.
I wouldn't recommend it. You'd be giving into her then and rewarding unwanted behavior. That's the same as training her to do something you don't want. You must be consistent. Dogs need stability in order to be comfortable. They need to understand what is and is not okay. If you let her on the couch, but your husband doesn't, this will only confuse her.
If he does agree to letting her on the couch, make sure that she understands that you have to invite her first. She'll see it as a reward that way.
i thought about calling the vet again, but they are just going to tell me to close the cage and cordon off the living room to force her to be a member of the pack. we only have one doggie behavioralist in town she is brand new and not much help.
Many vets know medicine and not behavior. How new is the behaviorist? New to the title does not necessarily mean that she is inexperienced. Does she actually label herself a "behaviorist" or does she call herself a trainer? There can be a bit of difference between the two and your situation definitely appears to need a behaviorist or rehabilitator above a trainer.
maybe i'm just selfish for wanting to actually see her without it just being this clicking (hardwood floor) streak heading to my backyard.
Absolutely not. You love her and want what is best for her. It would be selfish/lazy to just leave her to her solitude. Dogs need to experience being part of a pack. When a cautious/shy dog transforms into a confident part of the family, you experience a beautiful thing and the quality of life is improved for all.
i wonder too, if, despite this, she does have some separation anxiety bc she will piddle on the floor if we leave her in the house while we are gone. almost always in the same spot (i covered it w/a rug and it hasn't happened really since) i really appreciate everyone's advice and talking so i don't feel like myself or betsy is crazy.
Do you have another dog? Have you seen her with other dogs? Depending on her temperment, another dog could help bring her out of her shell. If she is canine-friendly, see if a friend or neighbor has a dog that would like to be her playmate. If that seems to work, you could consider setting up regular play dates or even rescuing another one permanently.
One of my dogs used to have terrible separation anxiety. It was so bad that I'd be in the shower washing my hair and suddenly she'd come in to the shower to be with me. When I rescued another dog close to her age (approx 6 months), she blossomed and the change was wonderful to witness.
As for her fears of people while you are out walking, you may want to give this pamphlet a read: The Cautious Canine
. The same author also offers a pamphlet on Separation Anxiety. They are quick reads and easy to understand.
And you can always search around DogWise.com to see if any other books look like they might be of use.
Please keep us posted.