We have a fairly large family (12 people, spread out). One is vegan by choice (no allergies I am aware of), 3 of us vegetarian, one vegetarian heading towards vegan, one (severe) soy allergy, one egg allergy, 2 lactose intolerant, and 1 gluten allergy. I don't mind helping with big family meals, or working around people's allergies or dietary choices. I have a SIL who won't eat anything that's gluten free vegan, meaning, the lactose intolarnts (including her), the egg allergy, and the gluten allergy, in her mind, take a back seat. Do I just say there's no egg and no soy and not say anything else about it, or do I tell the truth, it's gluten free and vegan? How do you handle something like this?