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#1 Old 05-08-2015, 05:57 AM
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I told my family....

Sooooo last night I told my family that I was going vegan. Right off the bat I got the protein and calcium debate.

We are living with my parents right now because of some financial difficulties. My husband SAYS he's supportive, then we have conversations with that end with me getting mad and him saying "I'm not saying this to put you down" but it FEELS that way. Either way, I don't care, I'm in for the long haul but it would be nice to have more support at home you know?

Thanks for the vent.
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#2 Old 05-08-2015, 07:41 AM
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Ugh, I know how irksome that is. When I went vegan, my extended family would bombard me with questions (in their case, regarding the ethics side) every time they saw me, for the first full year or so. Now though, they've gotten bored of me and if I so much as mention tofu, they roll their eyes. I'm still pretty pissed to this day (I need to let go of grudges!).

But in your case, they seem to be focusing on the nutrition/health aspect of it, right? Could it be that perhaps their questionning stems from concern for you and your health? It's quite possible they are motivated by how much they care about you.

One thing I learned the hard way about talking about veganism with loved ones is that more often than not, *they* will initiate the topic, and then get defensive and accuse you of being pushy with your beliefs. The best way to deal is to be as knowledgable on the topic as possible, and answer their question in the most succinct way possible, no fluff, no footnotes, or adendums.

Oh, and find a safe outlet for the inevitable frustration! These boards are here to help!

Best of luck, and congrats on the transition!
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For most of us, saying that we're going vegan is like dropping a bombshell right in the living room!

I went vegan at the age of 45, and for the first five years, my mother was sure that it was just "another crazy phase" I was going through. and I had been vegetarian for a long time before I went vegan.

After nearly 10 years, I'm happy to report that things are so much better! Family and friends are all on board, they seek out restaurants where we can all be accommodated, and for the most part they all seem to respect that I'm living my values.

So, hang in there. Keep your sense of humor. Come to VB for support, and know that you're doing a great thing!
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#4 Old 05-08-2015, 08:28 AM
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Ugh, I know how irksome that is. When I went vegan, my extended family would bombard me with questions (in their case, regarding the ethics side) every time they saw me, for the first full year or so. Now though, they've gotten bored of me and if I so much as mention tofu, they roll their eyes. I'm still pretty pissed to this day (I need to let go of grudges!).

But in your case, they seem to be focusing on the nutrition/health aspect of it, right? Could it be that perhaps their questionning stems from concern for you and your health? It's quite possible they are motivated by how much they care about you.

One thing I learned the hard way about talking about veganism with loved ones is that more often than not, *they* will initiate the topic, and then get defensive and accuse you of being pushy with your beliefs. The best way to deal is to be as knowledgable on the topic as possible, and answer their question in the most succinct way possible, no fluff, no footnotes, or adendums.

Oh, and find a safe outlet for the inevitable frustration! These boards are here to help!

Best of luck, and congrats on the transition!
Thanks....youre right its more concern, and now I feel bad. I talked to my mom on the phone and she said "whatever you need to do to be healthy we'll support". I may have actually said the things necessary to rest her mind at ease I guess.
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For most of us, saying that we're going vegan is like dropping a bombshell right in the living room!

I went vegan at the age of 45, and for the first five years, my mother was sure that it was just "another crazy phase" I was going through. and I had been vegetarian for a long time before I went vegan.

After nearly 10 years, I'm happy to report that things are so much better! Family and friends are all on board, they seek out restaurants where we can all be accommodated, and for the most part they all seem to respect that I'm living my values.

So, hang in there. Keep your sense of humor. Come to VB for support, and know that you're doing a great thing!
Thanks Poppy! I'm 41. I definitely plan to hang out here and also find people around where i live.
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I'm excited now! I signed up for a local veg meetup and was on the waiting list but a spot opened up and I get to go!! Its tomorrow at a local vegan restaurant.
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Thia -

CONGRATS!!!!!

Take it one meal at a time.

Enjoy your new adventure!!!!
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Thia -

CONGRATS!!!!!

Take it one meal at a time.

Enjoy your new adventure!!!!
Thank you!! I will!!
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the best tactic for dealing with family, is to try to realise most of them are mad, this is easy to do if you know your right...
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#10 Old 05-08-2015, 04:26 PM
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the best tactic for dealing with family, is to try to realise most of them are mad, this is easy to do if you know your right...
Lolol boy isn't THAT the truth!! Thanks seanE!
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I hope you have a great time at the veg meetup Thia! Hang in there with the family. They will come around eventually. My inlaws thought I was joining a cult when I told them I went vegan lol.

Ps. I went vegan at 38 and am now almost 43. so many of us here are around the same age.
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You should've started out telling them you are an ax murderer, then told them you are going vegan...It'd make it a lot easier on them, and given us (at least me) a good laugh.
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#13 Old 05-09-2015, 08:31 AM
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I hope you have a great time at the veg meetup Thia! Hang in there with the family. They will come around eventually. My inlaws thought I was joining a cult when I told them I went vegan lol.

Ps. I went vegan at 38 and am now almost 43. so many of us here are around the same age.
Thanks naturebound! I havent told the inlaws yet, we don't have much contact with them but I bet I would get that reaction too ...

Oh that's awesome! My coworker is younger than me and her husband is also vegetarian so she has some support at home.
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You should've started out telling them you are an ax murderer, then told them you are going vegan...It'd make it a lot easier on them, and given us (at least me) a good laugh.
Lololol!!!
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Welcome, Thia! I'm glad that you and your immediate family are at ease with each other.

Sometimes, when people go vegetarian or vegan, they DON'T make healthy food choices, so your family's initial concern might have had some valid backing. Then again, the Standard American Diet has its own health problems associated with it... so there you go.
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Thx Tom!
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Congratulations on being open and upfront with your family, its always a good thing to be able to be yourself and do what you feel is the right thing to do!

Posts like these always make me feel a little left out for all the wrong reasons! when i first went vegetarian, which lasted about a week before cutting dairy and the like, no one really batted an eye! friends and family, even including "flamboyant" omnivores"; ' oh yeah, thats cool... *on to next subject of conversation*' With the exception of a few questions about whats in something if i host friends or family or what i eat in lieu of something else, its just never been "a thing". i want my offended moment!
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Congratulations on being open and upfront with your family, its always a good thing to be able to be yourself and do what you feel is the right thing to do!

Posts like these always make me feel a little left out for all the wrong reasons! when i first went vegetarian, which lasted about a week before cutting dairy and the like, no one really batted an eye! friends and family, even including "flamboyant" omnivores"; ' oh yeah, thats cool... *on to next subject of conversation*' With the exception of a few questions about whats in something if i host friends or family or what i eat in lieu of something else, its just never been "a thing". i want my offended moment!
Lol! Yeah, it went way better than I thought but I could do without my offended moment lol. I haven't gotten those at work though.
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