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#1 Old 08-24-2014, 12:08 AM
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I'm back and starting over

I don't know if anyone remembers me, I haven't posted since about 2011 I think.

Here's the dealo, I quit being a vegetarian out of convenience because where I was living was with my husband and his father before we got married. His father would complain and say the most back handed crap I got so tired of it because he wasn't going to stop. He acted like me being one made him meat deficient or something. Anyway I gave up and I know, it isn't great to admit.
So here I am, trying again but... I'll be honest I feel a little overwhelmed, like I'm alone, I feel scared at times for some reason like this will isolate me. I don't have any friends who are the same. My husband is fine with meatless meals but he is not a vegetarian.
I don't remember feeling this way before. All in all I need advice on how to deal with my uneasiness. I keep reminding myself that everything is fine and that I can feel better about what I eat and that eases my worry a bit.
I haven't been on this long, maybe almost a week. I'm doing well so far other then this

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#2 Old 08-24-2014, 12:42 AM
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Your body, your health, your ethics, no one else's. If your FIL keeps giving you sh uh, slack...tell him to back off. Or, as the t-shirt says, "If you don't ask about my protein, I won't ask about your cholesterol." Keep making delicious veg*an food, and ignore the nay sayers.

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When I first tried to go vegetarian (1982,) I failed, and 5-years went by before I was even able to try again. Then, it took 5 more years for me to phase out all meat and become vegetarian. So I would say, you're doing better than I did! Still, I got there, and several years later ('95,) went full vegan, and haven't looked back. So don't worry about the clock or the calendar. Just keep your goal in mind, and you'll get there.

P.S.- Welcome back!
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#4 Old 08-24-2014, 08:43 AM
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CONGRATS on your return!!!!

You only have one life, & it's yours to live. Don't live your life for anyone else, otherwise, you're living a lie & will be miserable.

Tell your FIL that you've made a decision & he should respect it. Maybe tell him WHY you chose this path. Ask him about the average health status of a U.S. citizen. Ask him if your choice to eat healthy plants, without the fat, cholesterol, chemicals, etc. is a better decision. Maybe you will live longer, and be able to properly take care of his Son & Grandkids.
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#5 Old 08-24-2014, 10:36 PM
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Don't let the false start put you off. Some of us take a bit longer to get there than others. I've been vegetarian on and off since I was 14 (I'm now staring down the barrel of 40), with it only sticking in the last few years and then the last year or so transitioning to vegan. Admittedly acknowledging I had a dairy intolerance was a good kickstart. Shortly afterwards realising that eggs had always made me feel queasy as well finished off the job. It's been at least 6 months vegan now and I can't actually envisage going back.
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Thank you everyone, I don't live with him so it doesn't affect me anymore but I know this family will be like "Again?" Sometimes I don't get it? It's so simple, you just don't eat meat and in my case I'm really trying to avoid dairy and eggs to become vegan but why would people find that wrong? Right now it's fine until it ends up coming up at family gatherings which it will if someone notices me avoiding the meat.

Anyway, as uneasy as I feel sometimes about being like this in our society in the u.s I feel like I have more options and help more then ever, even my work had an event where they fed us, it was burgers and chips but they had veggie burgers too, things have gotten easier for us so I'm very grateful.

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#7 Old 08-25-2014, 04:12 PM
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Thank you everyone, I don't live with him so it doesn't affect me anymore but I know this family will be like "Again?" Sometimes I don't get it? It's so simple, you just don't eat meat and in my case I'm really trying to avoid dairy and eggs to become vegan but why would people find that wrong? Right now it's fine until it ends up coming up at family gatherings which it will if someone notices me avoiding the meat.

Anyway, as uneasy as I feel sometimes about being like this in our society in the u.s I feel like I have more options and help more then ever, even my work had an event where they fed us, it was burgers and chips but they had veggie burgers too, things have gotten easier for us so I'm very grateful.
I went to a restaurant today & ordered their "big salad" without the Parmesan cheese. The waitress asked me if I didn't want cheese due to a food allergy, or a dietary preference. I told her I just didn't want it on the salad.

I should have said "It's nunnya". Like nunnya business. Leave me alone & gimme my food.

It was my first day of going raw....& so far, so good. This looks promising.

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#8 Old 08-26-2014, 06:25 PM
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That really is none of her business. Oh well, it's good to have options

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#9 Old 08-27-2014, 04:47 PM
 
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If it's a food allergy, they would have needed to be extra diligent in making sure no cheese was around it. It's actually a reasonable question. Ideally all such requests would be treated with that kind of diligence, of course, but life and kitchens (especially if high-volume) don't do "ideally".

/speaking as a kitchen employee in a high-volume omnivorous restaurant with claustrophobically limited...well, space, period.

Vegetarian since 2 June 2014.

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#10 Old 08-27-2014, 05:15 PM
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That's good to do, it does seem though that gluten allergies and lactose intolerant are becoming more common, I've noticed gluten free popping up everywhere and lactose intolerance has made getting dairy free items more affordable. It's easier for us and at the same time really sad for those who have these problems. More and more reasons why I'm so happy to be doing this.

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