- Feminism facilitates for females to seek male advantages while disallowing males from seeking female advantages. The common examples to suggest this were based on cultural values and beliefs.
This is simply not true, even though it may appear true. Feminists have achieved more freedom for females, and while we strive for equality, society takes time to change. A classic example: Women now have the "male advantage" is that women now work outside the home (in jobs of power). Women can choose between raising children at home or working outside the home. Many men feel that they can't choose to raise children. Either their company does not have paternity leave, they feel it is emasculating, whatever.
Feminists would LOVE to see men choosing to stay home with kids. (But not flipping the relationship and expecting/pressuring men to do so). Another stupid example, women can dress like men (ie, in pants and T-shirts) or be "tomboys" without anyone blinking an eye, but men can't be feminine or wear dresses. Likewise, feminists would love to see this change, society just hasn't caught up with.
In short, feminists have made victories in changing the definition of "femininity" and what is acceptable for women to do, but they have not succeeded yet in doing the same for masculinity and men. This is not because feminists don't believe or fight for these things. It might be just because re-defining masculinity was a more recent entry into the feminist cause.
- Feminism is a form of female empowerment but at the cost of men's rights and opportunities. The most common examples to suggest this were based on affirmative action and the justice system.
I'm going to re-state what you said with one major change.Feminism is a form of female empowerment but at the cost of men's privileges.
Feminists don't want women to have rights over men. They just want justice. Being a man comes with an "invisible backpack" of advantages that help you succeed, just because you're a man. This is privilege. There are some privileges that everyone should have--and women don't want to take these away from men. An example is being able to go out at night alone without the fear of rape. There are some privileges that no one should have, and these are the ones that feminists try to deny men. Men used to be allowed to rape their wives (in the US). Only in the 1993 in the US was this privilege taken away from them.
To be perfectly honest, I have no idea how affirmative action works in practice. I do know that the idea of accepting lesser qualified candidates because they belong to an oppressed group is a myth, or at least that is not how it is meant to work. Just looking around my college, wealthy neighborhoods, and the companies my parents work for--it doesn't seem to me that white people are having trouble getting jobs or getting into college. Besides, men should get over the fact that they have to compete with women and people of color. White men don't deserve these jobs more than anyone else. Everyone has a right to them. That's what affirmative action is trying to achieve.
- Feminism was a knee jerk reaction to male chauvinism. As a result, it's now used to scapegoat males in male-female situations.
Why the use of the word "knee jerk"? Feminism is
a reaction to sexism. The term "male chauvinism" to me implies an individual level of prejudice. Sexism is systematized. It's not individual jerky men keeping women down, the sexism is institutionalized in society. So, women get pissed off about that. If that's what you mean by "knee jerk" then fine, but you're ignoring the whole academic arm of feminism and the detailed and astute analysis provided by feminists.
There are some feminists who do do this scape-goating you have mentioned. It is not fair to characterize the individual reactions of people as indicative of the intentions of the whole movement. A good example of this is rape cases. Because the voices of victims have been ignored and rape victims are often questioned and somehow blamed for their own rapes, feminists respond by blaming the men heavily. In most cases, this is the right thing to do. But sometimes, it is proven that there was no rape, and everyone laughs at the feminists for being wrong.
You're right in saying that it isn't good to blame the male by default. Most feminists would agree with you. Feminism is not at all trying to say that women are perfect and only men are scumbags. There are plenty of female *******s and scumbags in the world, and there are plenty of wonderful men.