http://www.thelocal.se/12046.html

It's good to see that he reported it. Way too many men who are raped by women are too ashamed to say anything. I'm not sure why this is in the compost heap, though.

Nearly all the comments on the original article are negative so I was concerned about the same thing happening on here.

Oh, ok. I didn't see any comments, just read the article. The "men can't be raped" attitude makes me sick.

I can't find the comments page now, must have gotten to them accidentally. The forum I found this article on was the same way, all men can't be raped and nothing but mockery. The attitudes towards this person and the subject in general makes me physically ill.

to him for reporting. As hard as it is for women to report, I think it's even more difficult for guys to come forward.

Glad he reported it.

Sad -- but maybe if more cases are reported people will realize it happens. Since in a sense, anything shy of the guy beating up the woman (and who'd be the "problem" then?) and a woman could assault, and get a man... uh... able to have sexual relations without him wanting to.



Of course he'll never live it down sadly -- he'll get crap for it for months/years.





I clicked on a link from that article... and there was another story of a woman arrested for aggravated rape -- of another woman (forced the woman at knifepoint to perform sexual acts on her).

seriously, I blame that guy, who are these ****ers that don't understand the meaning of simple two letter words and think oral sex is just a friendly pat on the back.

this is absolutely awful... the poor guy.

It's good to see he reported it. My brother has read about many instances where men have reported rape and been laughed at so I hope something like that doesn't happen here. Regardless of who the victim is, rape is a very serious crime, so I hope the proper justice is carried out.

It's probably only somewhere like Sweden that the guy would actually feel ABLE to report it.

Am I missing something? Doesn't sound like he was raped... sounds more like he was sexually assaulted?

the comments on that site are awful.




oh yeah, he should just "man up" and get over it because real men are meant to want sex with anyone, anytime. :eyeroll:

The man did file rape charges, so that's what I'm going by.

All you're going on is a newspaper report. They might be in error, or there might be some confusion in translation.

I think a swedish newspaper would be pretty careful in how they translate. The definition of rape may differ in sweden or there's more to the story than was reported.



ETA According to a law passed in 1999, oral sex is considered rape in Sweden. I wish the US would pass a law like this! http://www.prostitutionresearch.com/swedish.html

Quite possibly. So we're agreed that we're not necessarily in possession of all the facts then?




Rape is generally understood to refer to forced penetration. Legally, there's a good case for all serious sexual assault to be treated with the same severity, but I think applying the word "rape" to a wider variety of offences isn't particularly helpful. Bit like calling pescatarians vegetarians.

Regardless of personal opinions, this guy was raped and reported as such.

I'm not in the US.



*edit* I see you changed that to US/UK.... last minute realisation of cultural assumptions?



Firstly, you don't know that the man was sexually assaulted - let alone raped. An accusation is not proof of fact.



Secondly, in order to agree that a "rape" has taken place, we would have to agree what we meant by the word. Personally, I - along with most of the planet - regard rape to mean forced penetration, or forced intercourse. I would therefore regard the man to have been sexually assaulted if the alleged incident took place. He may have been "raped" according the Swedish legal definition, but that's not the same thing as saying he was "raped" according to how most people would understand the term.



Either way, forced oral sex is a serious sexual assault, whatever label you choose to give it.

I understand that. You'd have to have been there to have a say, and I don't think that applies to any of us. I'm just saying that rape is one of the worst crimes a person can commit and more should be done to stop it.

and I'm not sure why that would be except for pure patriarchy.


if it quacks like a duck. someone sticks a gun to his head and or threatened to bite down HARD if he resists. sounds like rape to me.

What's patriarchy got to do with it? A man forcing oral sex upon a woman isn't considered rape. A woman forcing oral sex upon a man isn't considered rape. A man forcing a woman into penetrative sex is considered rape. A woman forcing a man into penetrative sex is considered rape. There's no gender distinction.




Yeah, and someone who doesn't eat dairy sounds like a vegan. Doesn't make 'em a vegan. What you're describing is not rape - it's serious sexual assault.

Forced oral sex is rape, whichever way you want to cut it. Sorry babe, rape is rape.

I thought we already clarified that it is in fact rape. This isn't an issue of opinion. You can say it's not rape till the cows come home take over the world and teach the pigs to cook but you will still be wrong. Rape, in sweden, which in the only definition relevant here is any kind of forced sex act.

According to whom?

Not that I'm aware of.




And you can argue a point of pedantry until you're blue in the face, but it's still at odds with how the vast majority understand the term.




Why is it the only definition of relevance? Because you say it is? If Sweden defined vegans as people who simply didn't eat eggs, would you agree that a cheese-eating person was therefore a vegan?



I'm really puzzled why you feel the need to insist that this was rape - it was certainly serious sexual assault, so why do you feel the need to attach a further label to the incident?

swedish law

I already posted the swedish definition of rape, you saw it and commented on it so you are aware of the clarification. Many countries don't define rape as sweden does but this didn't occur in those countries. Rape is not a further label, it is the only label.

As I said... if Swedish law defined a vegan as a vegetarian who didn't eat eggs, would you agree that egg-avoiding vegetarians were therefore vegans?



And how about avoiding smart-ass comments ("president atomik") and keeping the discussion civilised? I appreciate that your argument is flimsy, but resorting to childish behaviour really does little to strengthen your case.