My hubby & I are thinking of doing a renewal next year, for our 10th.
Originally Posted by cymbeline
1) Most important point: You said them once. Didn't you mean them!
Sure! Does repeating them somehow negate that?
2) OK, you want to add new stuff or rephrase. C'mon, you may slide into purple prose that is just annoying. Again, the first vows, whether you went tradional or phrased your own, should have been sufficient to carry you through.
As if people don't change after a decade or longer? As if relationships don't change? Purple prose is just as annoying in a wedding as it is in a renewal - best avoid it entirely.
3) Aren't you just drawing attention to yourself when you come down to it?
I suppose that does end up happening most of the time, but that's not what it's about. My wedding had 14 people there, total (including my hubby, myself, the reverend, and all the guests). My renewal will probably only have about 5 or 6 people there.
4) How are you making your divorced friends feel?
If they're real friends, they will be happy for me.
5) Renewing at 10 years? Why? Lots of people can do 10 years. It's no big whoop. Wait until your 25th silver anniversary and everybody can party. I'm not even sure my husband and I will have one of those.
Why not at 10 years? It's a nice round number.
I think it's good to consciously and ritualistically re-dedicate yourself to things you care about. Of course, I'm a pagan, so that possibly explains things. My renewal will look and feel a lot more like a spell being cast than anything else...and in essence that's what it is.
Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks.