there are different kinds of "flexitarians."
- the transitional flexitarian: the person who is trying to cut meat out, but isn't totally there yet.
- the trace flexitarian: would rather eat an infant than a steak, but doesn't worry about beef fat in twinkies or chicken broth in their soup
- the "I'm not a vegetarian.": will eat the pot roast if they find themselves in a situation where there are no good veg options and won't ask anyone to make exceptions for them, but if there's a way around it, they'll take it. this person won't order pork fried rice if there's veg fried rice and almost never buys meat.
- the "make an exception"-itarian.: This person is looking for attention. I have a friend like this. They'll announce that they're vegetarian, but will eat meat when the mood strikes them. My friend would say, "I can't eat it if it reminds me of an animal." even though she would if she wanted it. This "vegetarian" does things like say, "we can't get sausage pizza because I'm a vegetarian." so you get a cheese pizza and a pepperoni- she takes a slice of pepperoni, explaining, "I can eat it if it doesn't look too much like an animal." (but then eats beef jerkey the next day when only a few people are watching)
-the sympathetic vegetarian: would never call themselves vegetarians and have no problem eating meat normally, but if they go out to dinner with you, they'll go out of their way to eat veg. They like veggie burgers and tofu. They'll invite you over to eat just so that they have an excuse to have a vegetarian meal. This person thinks being vegetarian is pretty cool, but doesn't have too much interest in doing it permanently.
- The "I'm doing it for you" flexitarian: thes are pretty rare, but I do have one frient like this: after a long conversation on why I was vegetarian, she apologized profusely for not being able to do it, saying she wanted to help animals but didn't want to deprive her daughter of meat and didn't want to give it up (the convo was mostly led by her- I wasn't vegevangelizing.) and I pointed out that if she gives up meat for one day a week, she'll save more animals than if she eats meat every day. She doesn't eat meat on wednesdays now.