This isn't a popular view either, but I don't think causal sex (ie the bar hoppers, NHL screwers, date you for a week and it's over) is a sign of independence or a strong sexual identity. I don't need to sleep with dozens, or hundreds, of men to annouce to the world that I am independent or that I'm repressed. I'm quite happy keeping my body to myself.
Rebel Girl - I know that you are waiting for results from test results, so I will withhold my thoughts on your comments. I do hope things work out for you and that you "only" have the emotional wounds of this situation.