Originally Posted by mlp
Well, there's a bit of a difference there - that was in response to the now rather oft repeated argument that it's inherently unfair to saddle an unwilling man with child support for a child he doesn't want. The proponents of that argument are the ones who are focusing on parenthood being all about finances, which I find both fascinating and terribly sad.
You'll please forgive me if I'm wrong but I don't recall anyone but you bringing child support (i.e., "a man's financial interests") into the conversation until after you did. Again, I say I can be completely mistaken, but I don't think I recall reading herein this thread anyone whose argument rested on child support.
Several posters had only spoke of the equity of choice, parenthood, and fatherhood (words that, to my mind, do not immediately associate with finances even despite the context of this conversation) and you, in turn, specifically associated our comments with "a man's financial interests". I think you would be hard-pressed to find anyone in this thread who was solely or particularly concerned about child support. While it is certainly a factor to consider when weighing the equity of choice, it is of the least of the concerns.
It's also important to note that you were quite quick to make that association (first page, even) and you spoke of it as if it were the most important consideration a man would or could have in this situation, if not as if it were the only consideration.
Hypothetically speaking (in fact, extremely so), were I ever to get a woman pregnant and she chose to have the child despite my utter lack of a desire to have children, I could never in good conscience be either a "dead-beat dad" who doesn't pay child support nor a father who only paid child support. Because of who I am, I would not only be required to support the child but be a full-time, 100% best father I could be after the fact. I'm also quite sure that I would enjoy doing so as well. However, it does not change the fact that there was a severe lack of equity in the choice regarding the circumstances through which the child was brought into the world.