Originally Posted by stanie
Thats not shallow, youre being honest, and wish more people here would be.
Well, I can't speak for anyone else but looks really aren't that important to me, so what can I say? I AM being honest.
Maybe you got the impression that saying looks don't matter that much is the same as saying looks don't matter at all? If someone has an amazing personality but they smell bad and have dandruff and bad breath and warts or something then no of course I won't feel sexually attracted to them, but that's a pretty extreme example just to make a point here.
I've always found that personality and charisma are what make a person hot and not just their outer shell, there are a lot of celebrities who might be considered conventionally ugly if you just saw them on the street but when you see them performing and full of energy and confidence they become the sexiest person alive to me. (David Bowie, Mick Jagger, Marilyn Manson, and yes Adrian Brody!)
And it works the other way too, I've dated some men that I found extremely physically attractive at first, conventionally handsome and in good shape and all that, but then they turned out to be giant *******s and once I discovered how ugly and petty they were on the inside all sexual attraction just withered away like a deflating balloon, I wouldn't have touched them with a ten foot pole if they had begged me.
I remember when Dave Navarro got his reality show with Carmen Elektra, I had always thought he was incredibly sexy when I just saw him onstage with his black nail polish and eye liner, but then I saw who he was as a person and he wasn't hot and mysterious at all! He came off as this whiney self obsessed fashion whore who was more concerned about choosing a shirt that shows off his pecs than making good music, now every time I see him I feel no attraction, I just hate him and his stupid little goatee and think he looks like a jerk.
No one is saying that looks are totally irrelevant, of course we all have eyes and libidios, I'm just saying that it's not the most important thing at ALL nor should it be. For me it's all about the personality and charisma, THAT'S sexy.