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#1 Old 06-03-2009, 07:17 PM
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I have been thinking about this lately. What is your personal approach to a whiner (whiny person?). I don't mean the normal venting that people do sometimes to stay sane. I mean repetitive, neverending whining about the same issue(s) or even minor issues...sometimes issues they brought upon themselves.



Do you avoid talking to them? Do you act sympathetic each and every time they complain? Do you behave in a neutral manner? Or do you flatout tell them to stop being a whiner?



Do you think tough love is a good thing because sometimes you just need to be blunt, or is that too mean?



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Depends on the person how if I would just ignore them or say something, but I wouldn't act sympathic each and every time if they were whining about nothing/pety stuff/stuff they brought on their selves.
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Yeah, it depends on the person.
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#4 Old 06-03-2009, 08:29 PM
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and it depends on the situation a bit too.
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i've been known to tell them that i think its great that they've worked out the problem so clearly, and feel able to verbalise it so well, and ask them to now focus on finding and implementing the solution. then i depart swiftly.
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Be sympathetic once or twice. After that...change the subject nonchalantly. Should work most of the time.
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Alternately, earplugs, hugs, words of encouragement, letting them whine, or perfecting that "Really, I'm hanging on your every word" stare while thinking about something else entirely.

Q: How many poets does it take to change a light bulb? A: 1001...one to change the bulb, 1000 to say it's already been done.
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Grunt and basically don't respond at all, or mumble what I think is the underlying cause of their whining that they most likely don't want to hear and would get very pissed off if they heard it, and hope that it subconsciously reaches them.



Or just tell them to stop whining if it gets on my nerves enough.



This doesn't work so well on myself Someone needs to subconsciously suggest things to me, too! (I'm not sure it works at all, but it's more rewarding than nodding)
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I slap them.



















not really.
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I put more food in the whiners' bowls.

slops, gloops, and gruels.
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I'd say I'm somewhat that way regarding one or two subjects. It doesn't bother me too much as long as it's a subject I want to hear about.
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I can be whiney sometimes and one of my friends would say "yeah we've had this conversation already.'' It sure worked on me, so I'm going to try it out next time someone annoys me.

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I shake them around, throw them across the room and hiss at them.

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Whining can be many things. Are they just whining about general things we all have to put up with at times, such as work issues that are not such a big deal.



Or are they "whining" about serious issues where they may need help or counseling. Kind of a cry for help.
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Originally Posted by Starblossom View Post

I have been thinking about this lately. What is your personal approach to a whiner (whiny person?). I don't mean the normal venting that people do sometimes to stay sane. I mean repetitive, neverending whining about the same issue(s) or even minor issues...sometimes issues they brought upon themselves.



Do you avoid talking to them? Do you act sympathetic each and every time they complain? Do you behave in a neutral manner? Or do you flatout tell them to stop being a whiner?



Do you think tough love is a good thing because sometimes you just need to be blunt, or is that too mean?



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I go by William S. Burrough's "Words of Advice For Young People"



Do not offer sympathy to the mentally ill.

Tell them firmly:

I am not paid to listen to this drivel.

You are a terminal boob.

"I used to hate dogs 'til I saw one kill a kid." W.C. Fields
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i give them drugs, if that's what they're whining for, and i've got a doctor's order .
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#17 Old 06-06-2009, 02:03 PM
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I shake them around, throw them across the room and hiss at them.



dude, that's way cool! you're my hero .
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I try to be there for them...I have a nasal whine when I speak so It always sounds like I am whining...lol...I get what you are saying and it may get tiring but I usually just listen...if I am really fed up I say enough already and change the subject and thats that...I am a whiner and like that people are there for me so I am there for them with a hugg and a shoulder to lean on if needed.
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