men should just stop battering.
Nobody should have to put up with being abused and calling the police about it will definitely help the battered woman out. She could be too afraid to do anything to help herself to get out of the situation she's in.
She could easily simply ask him to leave. He would not be able to return if she did, and she knows it. The apartment is rented by her, not by him. He is simply a guest. The police will enforce trespassing complaints. So will I, as the super of the building. She is being struck, because she allows it. It sounds like she throws things at him, and strikes him with them. This is battering him, just as much as he batters her. Makes no difference if you use your hands, or you throw a plate, vcr, etcetera, at someone. Sounds to me like she does this first, then he fights back by hitting her directly with his hands. They are 2 batterers, not one. Really, all she has to do is not let him in next time he comes over. I am sure he will not force his way in. If he did, I would tell him the consequences, and he knows it.
She is being struck because she wants to be struck. He is being hit on the head with vcr's because he wants to be hit on the head with vcrs.
What I'm concerned about is they wake me up at night. The landlord doesn't seem to be concered about the small holes they make in the wall. Social service organization pays her rent on time, every month.
I could have him thrown out if I called the soc serv org. She is being assisted out of one battering relationship (she lived in a women's shelter before here, for battered women), by soc serv, into another battering relationship. If social service were to find out about the situatin and throw out this guy, make sure he doesn't come back, I wouldn't be at all surprised if she would immediately go out and find a third guy to throw vcr's at, and be smacked and punched by.
He pays nothing toward the rent. There is no reason for her to have him around. He doesn't do much around the house either. He sits around and watches TV. I don't understand why she lets him in.
They are both very nice if you talk to them either one at a time, or together when they aren't fighting. They are intelligent converationalists and generally respectul of others. They respect other people sort of, relative strangers, but not each other. I don't want to become friendly with them because I see they respect strangers, but hurt friends.
He is an amateur boxer, and when he isn't here he is sometimes training at the gym, or away at amateur matches for a week every few months, in various parts of the world. The newspaper said he might possibly go to the Olympics. She is not so athletic as he is. Obviously, he doesn't hit her as hard as he could, rather, he hits her as hard as he wants to. (If he hit her as hard as he could, she would be dead in a short time). He is very talented; I can see that training for boxing and boxing is hard work; but he apparently has zero money. Hard work is not always rewarded. I can see why she likes him, and why he likes her, but their relationship is stupid. No amount of good qualities make up for the bad quality of hitting someone. But again, she seems to start the battering.
I can sometime hear her goading him on. I really sounds to me like she wants to be struck. I agree that this is no excuse, on his part, for striking her. I think she has a death wish. I am fairly certain that if he went away, or I did something to get rid of him -- she would find someone else to hit her.