My (ex) SO's parents both did and didn't drive me up the wall. His mother was wonderful; a real gem. However, I wasn't too crazy about his dad walking out on the family when my (ex) SO was in preschool and having only the barest contact with them since then.
How much do you want your parents and/or SO's parents involved in the planning/decision-making/organizing of your wedding? Can be future-wish or hindsight.
Q: How many poets does it take to change a light bulb? A: 1001...one to change the bulb, 1000 to say it's already been done.