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View Poll Results: Whats your cuddling time limit?
I don't cuddle. Ever. Period. 1 100.00%
5 minutes, then go away 0 0%
10 minutes, then g'bye 0 0%
15 minutes, then take a hike 0 0%
20 minutes, then vamoose 0 0%
30 minutes, now move, i can't feel my arm 0 0%
1 hour, but only if I like you 0 0%
More than an hour, its all good 0 0%
No limit. Bring on the love. 0 0%
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#1 Old 08-08-2005, 12:38 PM
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I was talking to one of my friends from HS recently, who was extolling the virtues of his ex-gf, including the fact that she knew just how long to cuddle at night before getting the heck off of him and going to sleep. He said the limit, no matter what anyone says, is 15 minutes. Then go away.



I asked the guy I was dating, who said thats BS, as long as all parties involved are comfortable, its all good, with no time limit.



So what is your time limit on cuddles? Do you have one? Do specific conditions apply? Is there a difference between men and women when it comes to cuddle time limits?

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#2 Old 08-08-2005, 12:44 PM
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When all people involved want to cuddle, everything's fine. When someone does not want to cuddle anymore, they should be let go. It is afterall, a mutual activity is it not? The guy with the 15 minute time limit does not seem to grasp this concept.
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If its a 'we are both tired and want to go to sleep soon cuddle' then 15 minutes is a good amount. Its enough to get sleepy, but not so much where you get annoyed cause you just want to get to sleep already. If its a 'we are just cuddling to cuddle', there is no time limit
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When all people involved want to cuddle, everything's fine. When someone does not want to cuddle anymore, they should be let go. It is afterall, a mutual activity is it not? The guy with the 15 minute time limit does not seem to grasp this concept.



His position is that its burdensome to cuddle with someone for over 15 minutes, and anyone guy who is still cuddling after that time doesn't want to, is uncomfortable, but is afraid to say anything.

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His position is that its burdensome to cuddle with someone for over 15 minutes, and anyone guy who is still cuddling after that time doesn't want to, is uncomfortable, but is afraid to say anything.



(*whispers*) Relationships don't work if people don't communicate.
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(*whispers*) Relationships don't work if people don't communicate.



Ha! You don't have to tell me that. I'll say pretty much whatever. I was just posing his argument. Though, look where it got him? Pining over this girl who knew to cuddle for just 15 minutes who dumped him 2+ yrs ago :P

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I dated a guy who didn't even want to be touched while falling asleep or sleeping. It annoyed him and kept him awake. He wasn't a hugger, either. Just not physically very affectionate. But he was a good cook.
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I just want to add that I love your poll options!
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Put me down for 5 minutes.
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As long as everyone's happy, it's all good



The longer the better, I say
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If its a 'we are both tired and want to go to sleep soon cuddle' then 15 minutes is a good amount. Its enough to get sleepy, but not so much where you get annoyed cause you just want to get to sleep already. If its a 'we are just cuddling to cuddle', there is no time limit



yeah, that's about what i think too
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my boyfriend and I are very cuddly people, we'll cuddle for hours, talk about how we should cuddle more on the phone, etc. He likes to cuddle even more than I do, so I'm pretty sure there isn't a 15 min limit.
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5 minutes here. I don't like touching for extended periods of time
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I'm usually the one who has to extract myself from my bf's embrace, but usually it's a heat issue. I love to cuddle, but he's like a fiery furnace, so I can only take so much. I've never actually timed our cuddling...
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I've never really timed it, and it really just depends, so I said no limit.
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never. ever. ever.

back. away. slowly. and. you. won't. get. hurt.
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never. ever. ever.

back. away. slowly. and. you. won't. get. hurt.



does this mean you don't want to spoon?
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I'm pretty much in full agreement with Jinga and Mayu- not really any limit. I do agree with what Froggy said though, about either party feeling comfortable letting go if they want to. In general though, as the option states "bring on the love."
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(Laughing out loud at Shag's response...)



I can't imagine ever, ever, ever not wanting to cuddle, but do understand there are going to be different needs for each person...



However, I was in a previous relationship where the guy was the "5 Minutes, Then Go Away"-sort-of-person... He pretty much implied "all" guys were of the same opinion and there was something "wrong" with me for ever wanting to cuddle at all...



Probably one of the factors why the relationship eventually didn't work...I think it made it tough for us to try and be compatible in other areas 'cause we were SOOO different in this one...



Communucating about what each person wants and needs is definitely a good thing.
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does this mean you don't want to spoon?



The only spooning I'm doing is me and my soy delicious cookie avalanche.
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I'm a No Time Limit kind of girl, but if the person I'm cuddling with wants to roll over and go to sleep I'm not going to be offended. I do like a little physical contact when sleeping with someone though, a hand on the hip or feet touching, something like that. I'm just a touchy feely person.
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weird that someone would put a time limit on cuddling. I love to fall asleep cuddling but if my dh wants to stop before then, that's fine too (why are men such heat generators? man I hate not being able to snuggle in the summertime! )



i put no time limit -- sometimes i might want to cuddle for 30 seconds, sometimes cuddling on the couch for hours while doing a movie marathon is nice...
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I dated a guy who didn't even want to be touched while falling asleep or sleeping. It annoyed him and kept him awake.



I'm like that, i can't sleep while i'm cuddlin', and i prefer to face the other way to my boyfriend. I don't mind if he cuddles me then, so long as his head isn't resting on mine and i'm not too hot......... i duno, i just like my space When i stay with my boyfriend, we gradually move further and further over to my side of the bed. As i move away from him, he follows me! Last time he visited i fell out of the bed cos i was so near the edge I have to literally send him back over to his side or else, lol.



I am a hugger though ....... just not when i'm sleepin
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It really depends on the partner. An ex I had a long time ago was an incredible cuddler. I could be next to him all night cuddling, and even when we rolled apart, we were somehow entwined. He was a skinnier guy. Now, with the bigger guys I've cuddled with, it doesn't last as long cause I start to sweat
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Ehh, 15 minute time limit? My husband didn't get that memo. Don't you love guys who think they speak for all men? Maybe I'll start speaking for all women. It'll be fun.



I'm for the "cuddle when you want to, don't when you don't want to" option.
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It really depends for me. Sometimes I just want to konk out, sometimes I want to talk and hug. If it's on the couch, we can do it for more than an hour.....hugging I mean
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I didnt see the "no limit" option when I voted.



I love cuddling, I'll do it for hours. I love it, and my boyfriend does to, so it's all good.
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Where is the poll option for "e^(x/2) + 20" where x is the number of drinks I have had?
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Where is the poll option for "e^(x/2) + 20" where x is the number of drinks I have had?



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I said No limit, because of who I ended up with. I think it really depends on what KIND of cuddler you are cuddling with. My ex was suffocating and clingy. (made me feel a little clostrophobic. My hubby on the other hand, is a mutual cuddler. I'm being cuddled WITH rather than cuddled AT.
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