This is a continuation of Kreeli's thread really, and I am giving Kreeli the credit (and thanks) for starting a discussion about fat, even though she doesn't want to discuss certain issues surrounding fat.
So, this will be an open thread. No discussions or opinions will be deleted. I don't intend the 'mood' of the thread to be a debate, but a real discussion about the issues surrounding fat in our society. Whether it be fat prejudice, your own fears of becoming fat, or the current epidemic of obesity in our country. However if it becomes a debate, it can certainly be moved to the compost heap.
I will give you background on myself as it applies to the discussion, but this isn't meant to be about me. I'm 5'7", and weight 165. I'm a size 10-12. I jog occasionally, do yoga, am a single parent, work full time, and eat well and often. I come from a family of compulsive overeaters. We like to eat a lot of junk until we're really really full...and then not eat again until the next big meal. I've had lots of therapy and help with getting myself to a state of mostly
mental health. And having that therapy also had the side effect of improving my physical health. But, for most of the seven years of my marriage, I was fat.
Soilman mentioned something in another thread about fat folks being invisible. And to be honest, that's what I felt I was...invisible. I rather liked being invisible because it took the pressure off of me to 'perform' in a certain way. When you're fat, people don't expect very much from you. And though I didn't think about it at the time, it was very comforting not having anyone expect anything from me.
I'm concerned about the fatness of our society...as it applies to my own family, because of the health problems that accompany fatness--in some, not all people (esp in my aging parents...but also in my sister and her husband--both obese). It's crazy when I visit them. There will be only two, perhaps occasionally three meals per day...all of them HUGE and overblown with desserts. Then nothing for hours. Then another huge meal. They eat out often (four to five times a week minimum). So there's something hugely wrong. I've accepted I can love them and not try to 'fix' them. And I do accept them for who they are. This the way I was taught to eat. It's still difficult when I'm around my family to practice the moderation I've learned (but I've been successful).
when I think about the messages that we get out of the media...the conflicting messages of eat lots of food particularly meat and dairy...but by all means, be as thin as you can for god's sake...it frankly gives me a headache.
I try to teach my own daughter good sense when it comes to food. To listen to her stomach and body and to let enough be enough. To treat ourselves well...in all kinds of ways (not just with food), and to be healthy. I think whatever size you are, treating yourself well and being healthy and happy is just about the most important thing you can do.
I'd like a meaningful discussion of many fat issues to come out of this. I mean isn't something really wrong? I've seen so many people so afraid of getting fat they starve themselves....and others who become obese by eating way too much food. I've seen women who struggle with their weight (many unsuccessfully) their entire lives, but are never happy. I've seen people who believe (and I've believed myself) that happiness=a magical number on a scale. I had one best friend in the Army who really did believe she would be happy if she could just loose five pounds (she looked perfect just as she was). so why all the obsession when we are so obviously so much more than what we look like? Why do we continue to believe we are what we look like?
Okay, discuss if you're interested.