Originally Posted by ashlend
Thanks, this makes a LOT of sense actually. It's so simple really, isn't it? Just... don't smoke. I had a talk about this with my husband recently. I'm really going to try to stop -- really stop, not just smoke socially, smoke when I'm stressed, etc. If I really want to be free of this habit, I need to find other ways to deal with things that happen in life.
how did you deal with life events before you smoked? i'm assuming you did cope, and didn't smoke from birth onwards.
when things get tricky, phone a friend and talk about those things. go for a long walk or a run or a swim or to the gym. get in the bathtub and splash about in the bubbles. write it all down in a diary then let it go. suck on carrot sticks. sing to the radio and vaccuum until you drop. confront the problem and deal with it. etc.
smoking on a problem doesn't fix the problem, it just gives you another bunch of problems (addiction, dramatically higher risk of cancer- cancer is kinda a big problem to sign up for!, smelling bad and having to stuff mints into your gob and spray yourself with spray all the flipping time, or having to put up with people going 'blargh!' when you linger near them, having to spend money and having to go out to buy cigarettes and mints and sprays, being tied down by an addiction, wrecking your teeth, etc).
if you want to stop smoking, don't try
to stop, just do it. trying implies you might not succeed and is kinda half hearted and non-commital. like... i've been saying "i'll try
and do laundry today" for a week now. its still in a pile on the floor. i could totally just go do it right now.
instead of trying, take a deep breath, say "i'm not gonna do that again", mean it, and don't bloody well smoke any more. you can do it!