"Non-Vegan" fourth of july.... - VeggieBoards
Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 Old 07-04-2009, 04:56 AM
Beginner
 
whatisreal's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 139
Does anybody live with "non vegan" parents who invite relatives over for the holidays to consume animal products and you have no where else to go except remain there amongst all the horror?



If so, how do you deal with it?(or try to deal with it)
whatisreal is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
#2 Old 07-04-2009, 07:39 AM
Veggie Regular
 
cstadt's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Posts: 1,992
I just deal with it.



Maybe focus on the conversation and not so much on what everyone is eating?
cstadt is offline  
#3 Old 07-04-2009, 07:58 AM
Beginner
 
whatisreal's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 139
That's what I have been trying to do for the past ten years however sometimes their conversation heads towards talk which is exploitive oriented towards animals etc... so then I'm like Oh My ... where is my mate and her idyl singing to take me away from this.... If I stand there alone and even try to say things in a gentle calm way they get really uipset and start almost like ganging up on me or they say they do not wnat to hear it....and then I get upset and and angry and it ruins my day, sometimes I wonder if it is better just to not be around when they are doing the WRONG things like that of which I myself once use to do.



I found myself displaced into a situation where I do not know anybody else who does not consume animal products(ones who hold such a value) and I do not see a path to find anybody of that nature.

I think it is about MONEY.... If I had the money I could locate myself somewhere, where I could interact with others who are on the similar page. Let alone I could buy the freedom of as many animals that I could, right? Simultaneously building a SUPER VEGETARIAN food empire, right?



I know sometimes you can not find the solution unless you DIG IN, as in get involved talk to and relate to see what others are doing with their life... however sometimes it's like, enough is enough, isn't it? Who decides when enough is enough?



SHAKE YOUR MONEY MAKER
whatisreal is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
#4 Old 07-04-2009, 09:19 AM
Beginner
 
bleusman's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2009
Posts: 115
The 4th of July is a good opportunity to get people talking about veganism. I'm sure, being the nosy people that most people are, you'll be asked "why aren't you eating anything?" You can explain veganism to them and I'm sure, even if it doesn't convert them, it will plant an idea in their heads if you do it calmly and respectfully.
bleusman is offline  
#5 Old 07-04-2009, 03:54 PM
Newbie
 
GhostUser's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 0
I am the only Veggie and I have a close friend whos Vegan....Other Than that its all Meat Eaters....I just deal I have for years and really dont care what they eat or whatever....I dont Push Veggie on anyone...just like I dont like Flesh Pushed on me.



happy 4th
GhostUser is offline  
#6 Old 07-04-2009, 04:11 PM
Veggie Regular
 
karenlovessnow's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Home Sweet Home
Posts: 12,079
I live in a world of omnis, so I have to deal with it on a daily basis. I guess I'm lucky in that my family/friends are very considerate of my dietary choices. Their choice to eat meat is never shoved in my face so it's not so much of an issue for me.
karenlovessnow is offline  
#7 Old 07-04-2009, 11:48 PM
Veggie Regular
 
Tofu-N-Sprouts's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Posts: 11,049
Quote:
Originally Posted by bleusman View Post

I'm sure, being the nosy people that most people are, you'll be asked "why aren't you eating anything?"



Oddly, I have NEVER been asked this question. I always find SOMETHING to put on my plate and try to never look starving or "missing out". Maybe I look intimidating - hahah - who knows...
Tofu-N-Sprouts is offline  
#8 Old 07-05-2009, 12:18 AM
Veggie Regular
 
4EverGrounded's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2003
Posts: 5,644
I'm usually too busy socialising and having fun to arse with what people are eating, and they're usually too busy socialising and having fun to arse with what I'm eating. IMO, holidays like this are just better when the focus is on friends/family, not food.
4EverGrounded is offline  
#9 Old 07-05-2009, 04:05 PM
Newbie
 
miss77hollydoll's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2009
Posts: 7
my parents don't invite people over but i am forced to go over to relatives' houses where nobody there has ever given poor animals a second thought... it's kind of worse since usually questions pop up, especially around the host; "so, how did you like the (insert animal here)?" and aghh it's just not a good situation. i've only had one relative who ever decided to at least be a vegetarian and then she quit (she was for a long time though). anyways, i try my best to go outside and bring my own snacks.
miss77hollydoll is offline  
#10 Old 07-05-2009, 04:24 PM
Veggie Regular
 
nataliex1122's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Posts: 812
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tofu-N-Sprouts View Post

Oddly, I have NEVER been asked this question. I always find SOMETHING to put on my plate and try to never look starving or "missing out". Maybe I look intimidating - hahah - who knows...



That's probably because everyone wants some of your vegan food! Your daughter's chocolate chip cookie recipe is one of my favorite cookie recipe's of all time, and your food in the food porn thread always looks so good!
nataliex1122 is offline  
#11 Old 07-05-2009, 07:35 PM
Newbie
 
MsMarMe819's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 54
Quote:
Originally Posted by whatisreal View Post

Does anybody live with "non vegan" parents who invite relatives over for the holidays to consume animal products and you have no where else to go except remain there amongst all the horror?



If so, how do you deal with it?(or try to deal with it)



i don't wanna sound straight toward or rude but do you think they might question you or gang up on you by your reaction of horror? maybe they sense how appalled you are? so they act that way? maybe...?





in my opinion i know its hard but they are the people you love and if they love you and accept you then you just gotta deal. my family thinks im a weirdo because im the only veg.. but i just kind of roll with and deal.

i hope your 4th wasn't too bad
MsMarMe819 is offline  
#12 Old 07-06-2009, 09:46 AM
Veggie Regular
 
Tofu-N-Sprouts's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Posts: 11,049
Quote:
Originally Posted by nataliex1122 View Post

That's probably because everyone wants some of your vegan food! Your daughter's chocolate chip cookie recipe is one of my favorite cookie recipe's of all time, and your food in the food porn thread always looks so good!



Thanks. I've been in situations where people wouldn't TOUCH those cookies once they found out they were vegan. Which I just don't get.. But the "in-your-face" questions? I figure I clearly look ..*ahem* "well-nourished" enough that no one's gonna bother to ask what I ate or why...
Tofu-N-Sprouts is offline  
#13 Old 07-11-2009, 07:09 AM
Beginner
 
whatisreal's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 139
Quote:
Originally Posted by MsMarMe819 View Post

i don't wanna sound straight toward or rude but do you think they might question you or gang up on you by your reaction of horror? maybe they sense how appalled you are? so they act that way? maybe...?





in my opinion i know its hard but they are the people you love and if they love you and accept you then you just gotta deal. my family thinks im a weirdo because im the only veg.. but i just kind of roll with and deal.

i hope your 4th wasn't too bad





Should we love those who violently gasses the jews to death in the nazi gas chambers? Some people say love is what will change them, however it may not be the time or place for ONE to be that one who "gives off" taht love to those particular people and so it may be wise to not be there.... There may be in depth prejudices against one or other holdings which prevent the communication break thru.



Another posibility:

Well, what if they are trying to do that CA "FIGHTER" thing to me? well< i do not know if I am into that.... Where is the CA LOVER SONG? I need it...
whatisreal is offline  
#14 Old 10-01-2009, 10:04 PM
Veggie Regular
 
Purp's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Posts: 6,789
We have 4 vegetarians, one with an egg allergy, so we have a lot of Boca burgers (vegan) and Gardenburgers (also vegan) to grill. We also grill things like zucchini, onions, tomatoes, etc. If I knew where you lived (and it wasn't October when I respond to this) I'd invite you over.

Anytime I think I'm perfect, I remember that my cousin lives on an island, and I've never walked over to visit her.
Purp is offline  
#15 Old 10-19-2009, 04:28 AM
Banned
 
nickj's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Posts: 0
The yoga teacher training course practiced today bears little resemblance to the discipline that began humbly almost 5,000 years ago, but in its rich and varied history, yoga has always evolved to meet the needs of the culture it serves. In this combination of how-to guide and inspirational text. Linda Sparrowe blends a historical overview with a wealth of exercises to help readers strengthen the mind and body. In brief, lively portraits, the author describes the 20th-century masters who helped bring yoga to the West and, indeed, the world. the centerpiece of the book contains 400 "asanas, or postures. Rendered in sumptuous black-and-white photographs that illustrate the development of modern physical postures derived from ancient Indian tradition, the asanas and the accompanying text show how the flexibility and stamina achieved on the yoga mat can transform all areas of life.
nickj is offline  
#16 Old 05-04-2011, 08:09 PM
Veggie Regular
 
Purp's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Posts: 6,789
Quote:
Originally Posted by miss77hollydoll View Post

my parents don't invite people over but i am forced to go over to relatives' houses where nobody there has ever given poor animals a second thought... it's kind of worse since usually questions pop up, especially around the host; "so, how did you like the (insert animal here)?"

Just say, "I've never tasted it's equal." What? It's true. Enough.

Anytime I think I'm perfect, I remember that my cousin lives on an island, and I've never walked over to visit her.
Purp is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the VeggieBoards forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in


Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off