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Jennifer C 11-29-2013 08:12 PM

So, long-time members may remember my 2012 Thanksgiving rant - last year sucked to death. Then I spent a ton of time ranting and worrying this year too. Not to mention all the years before I was a VB member and still had issue with my family being a pain about holiday meals. 

 

Anyhow based on some suggestions by other VB members I discussed the issue much more with my family this year - especially my aunt who has been the worst about me going vegan. I told her flat out that her saying, "Vegan is French for weird" really bothered me and that we really, as a family need to focus on holiday time as a family vs. arguing over food. 

 

This paid off. 

 

This year the cons were:

 

  • Of course my family, all of whom eat meat, had a turkey at my aunt's house. 
  • I had to make lots of small sides of most stuff as they wouldn't eat vegan potatoes or stuffing or really anything vegan other than a ton of raw veggies. It was kind of a pain to make double of everything, but it's not like this is new. 

 

This year the pros were:

 

  • My aunt called me a few times to ask what kind of stuff was vegan. She had almond milk at her house when I got there - and she tried (though failed) to get vegan butter - BUT she tried. 
  • My aunt did not say ONE negative word about vegan food! Not a one. 
  • My aunt bought one vegan pie. 
  • No one else said anything bad about vegan food. I ate my food, they ate their food and no one got on anyone else. 
  • Usually I'm the one who makes up little leftover food platters for everyone. I always say, "I'm not packing up the turkey because I don't want to touch it." Usually people say, "Quit being so dramatic." This year, they packed up their own turkey and didn't bother me about it at all. 

 

I can tell this has been tough for my aunt. We have a family Facebook group where we plan events and we all posted what we would bring. My aunt said, "I'm bringing this and this and this, but I expect Jennifer will bring some vegan food too." Then she called me and said, "I feel bad I brought up the vegan thing! I hope I didn't offend you." I told her it's not at all offensive to state that I'll bring vegan stuff, as it's true. But you can see she's thinking things through right?

 

Anyhow, this was likely my most successful family Thanksgiving with regards to food so it was a good year and I'm not so scared about Christmas now! 


Gianna 11-30-2013 12:10 AM

What a success right? I mean, even when they make the smallest, incorrect, slightly offensive effort, at least they tried. I think the almond milk in your aunts fridge was a small victory, that's about $3 not spent on torture. It's going to take a long time, and painfully tiny advances, but the fact that your aunt even knew that almond milk exists and paid for it for your sake is a step in the right direction. I was really expecting the worst for yesterday, I lost many nights sleep over how I would answer the 'why vegan' question, in a way that prompted people to respond positively. ( as opposed to how I really wanted to answer, which was 'to stop inflicting violence upon billions of sentient creatures, you ignorant pieces of crap') haha, wait no, that's not what I meant to say wink3.gif
My dad did the same thing on our family's face book group page, it was really awkward to have someone else frame and define your choices as though they are alien to your own family, for all to see.
Thanks for this post, and thank you so much for welcoming me, I am new here smiley.gif

Werewolf Girl 11-30-2013 11:32 AM

It's great to hear things are going so much better, it sounds like your aunt is really making an effort.

Jennifer C 11-30-2013 12:12 PM

Quote:
Originally Posted by Werewolf Girl View Post

It's great to hear things are going so much better, it sounds like your aunt is really making an effort.

I know right! She really has made an effort this year. It's like night and day from last year. 


Purp 11-30-2013 08:46 PM

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jennifer C View Post
 

So, long-time members may remember my 2012 Thanksgiving rant - last year sucked to death. Then I spent a ton of time ranting and worrying this year too. Not to mention all the years before I was a VB member and still had issue with my family being a pain about holiday meals. 

 

Anyhow based on some suggestions by other VB members I discussed the issue much more with my family this year - especially my aunt who has been the worst about me going vegan. I told her flat out that her saying, "Vegan is French for weird" really bothered me and that we really, as a family need to focus on holiday time as a family vs. arguing over food. 

 

This paid off. 

 

This year the cons were:

 

  • Of course my family, all of whom eat meat, had a turkey at my aunt's house. 
  • I had to make lots of small sides of most stuff as they wouldn't eat vegan potatoes or stuffing or really anything vegan other than a ton of raw veggies. It was kind of a pain to make double of everything, but it's not like this is new. 

 

This year the pros were:

 

  • My aunt called me a few times to ask what kind of stuff was vegan. She had almond milk at her house when I got there - and she tried (though failed) to get vegan butter - BUT she tried. 
  • My aunt did not say ONE negative word about vegan food! Not a one. 
  • My aunt bought one vegan pie. 
  • No one else said anything bad about vegan food. I ate my food, they ate their food and no one got on anyone else. 
  • Usually I'm the one who makes up little leftover food platters for everyone. I always say, "I'm not packing up the turkey because I don't want to touch it." Usually people say, "Quit being so dramatic." This year, they packed up their own turkey and didn't bother me about it at all. 

 

I can tell this has been tough for my aunt. We have a family Facebook group where we plan events and we all posted what we would bring. My aunt said, "I'm bringing this and this and this, but I expect Jennifer will bring some vegan food too." Then she called me and said, "I feel bad I brought up the vegan thing! I hope I didn't offend you." I told her it's not at all offensive to state that I'll bring vegan stuff, as it's true. But you can see she's thinking things through right?

 

Anyhow, this was likely my most successful family Thanksgiving with regards to food so it was a good year and I'm not so scared about Christmas now! 

:vebo::nana::pibo::bobo:


River 11-30-2013 08:58 PM

That is WONDERFUL! I'm so glad to hear it went well, it seems like your family is very adaptable ^.^


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