i'm with whoever it was who said a small token gift would help the kids feel welcomed into the family and included in the celebrations. ESPECIALLY if they're tweens, that is the age where they start to feel super self-conscious and have an intense need to belong. getting gifts for everyone but them would make them feel unwanted and unwelcome and totally left out. may as well slap them in the face right when they walk in the door.
christmas is all about kids anyway, forgo a few of the adults' gifts and get something for the kids instead. even if it's just a little chocolate santa or silly bandz
or something cheap like that. or if you're giving handmade gifts make them each a little something too with materials you already have. when i was a kid we always popped into my mom's friend's place on boxing day to wish them a merry christmas and whatnot, and they always gave me a little something, usually handmade since she crochets. slippers or a toque etc. i suspect she always just made a few extra gifts just in case someone stopped by that she didn't buy anything for.
am i the only crazy one who likes giftgiving around here lol. i can't afford to buy for everyone and i'm glad we started doing secret santa with my husband's family but we still buy for the kids, only the adults do SS, the kids still get a boatload of gifts from everyone, including santa of course. i usually can't afford to get much for the kids but they don't understand yet if i spend less on them than someone else etc they don't care, they're just happy to get gifts. and you can get some really cheap toys these days at walmart, dollar stores, etc. i have a knack for spending the least amount of money possible but making it look like i spent a ton
the xmas before we got married money was really tight because of planning the trip and stuff so i bought dollar store candles and holders and tied them together in pretty ribbon to give to all the women, it makes a nice cheap and useful gift. i also made some beaded jewellery for all the girls to wear to the wedding, and jars of hot chocolate mix