Originally Posted by _sharon
Is it bad to be a vegetarian secretively? It was just so difficult to have my friends and family question me every day why I decided not to eat the meat.
What do you mean secretively? Do you tell them you are vegetarian if they ask you?
I know you talked about the idea of pushing it on people being like pushing religion on people. I couldn't agree more. I don't want people shoving religious tracts in my face, so I certainly wouldn't shove tracts (or "brochures") in the faces of omnis. I don't even want to see those videos and read that information people try to push on other people. My mom recorded a PETA special on HBO and asked me if I watched it yet and I said NO, I don't need to see that stuff. It would be like preaching to the choir. I don't need any further convincing that eating meat is wrong and all that.
I think that you first have to be honest with yourself. You have to practice what you believe in private first and foremost. I think it's quite honorable to be a vegetarian "secretively" because in the end your character is determined not what you do when others are watching but what do you do when they aren't.
I don't know what your situation is exactly, but why not volunteer to make some dishes of your own to share with people? Most people have the idea that vegan/vegetarian food must equal GROSS, but show them it can be good. It might not taste exactly the same as the foods laden with dairy and meat products, but show them it can taste excellent all on its own merit.
For example, I got sick of all the food days at work where there was tons of stuff brought I could not eat and if veggies were brought, they were just raw veggies with ranch dip. Overall just disgusting to me (not that I have a problem with raw vegetables, but there are some I just can't eat raw...maybe in small doses, but not without a good dip, and ranch doesn't cut it.) So even their veggie choices were laden with dairy and such. So I made a vegan cheesecake (made with tofutti cream cheese!) and it was a hit. Some people refused to try it...well, only one person that I know of...because she heard it had tofu in it. I said it was cream cheese made from tofu. I don't know what she had against tofu, but it was cool to watch others (omins) tell her she missed out.
To show your family that great meals can be made that everybody can enjoy that you can eat as well, offer to make it. Maybe one night a week to start.