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#1 Old 04-15-2008, 07:15 PM
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My best friend is a Veggie. I have known her 17 years and yesterday she got really agressive trying to push vegetarianism on me. I am a vegetarian when im with her and when i can easily get my hands on meat free. She is acting like this is the basis of our friendship (its not she has only in the past 2 yrs. made this decission). I totally suport her and would never think of pushing meat on her, so why if she making such a big deal about it? I understand its very important to her, but i dont think its fair to make me feel bad about my choice.



Do any of you love/live with omnis? How do you keep the peace? Any suggestions on what i should tell her?



I think just like to friends of different religions could still hang out, this should be the same.



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#2 Old 04-15-2008, 07:17 PM
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She shouldn't force it on you, of course. Just tell her that. But this really isn't a board for Omnivores, I'm afraid.
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Tell her exactly what you've just said. I do live with a very stubborn meat eater and we live quite peacefully. I don't try to force him into being veg and he doesn't mock my vegetarianism. It's thoughtful of you to be vegetarian when around her. Just sit down and tell her how you feel and I'm sure she will understand and back off.
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read some vegan stuff about eggs and dairy, and if she lectures you, throw that at her. assuming she is lact-ovo

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read some vegan stuff about eggs and dairy, and if she lectures you, throw that at her. assuming she is lact-ovo



An adversarial approach is not a good idea. It will only strain the relationship further.
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The best thing to do is tell her how you feel as calmly as you can and listen to how she feels in return. I have plenty of meat-eating friends and a meat-eating Husband. We keep the peace but it takes work. Understand that it is not like different religions, backgrounds, sports teams, etc. at all.



I have been in similar situations on the other side and each and every time I've had my reasons and they've had theirs for why the situation got out of hand. Communication will help with this and nothing else. She may feel alienated and alone in her commitment to this and offering to listen to how she feels would go a long way in easing the tension.



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read some vegan stuff about eggs and dairy, and if she lectures you, throw that at her. assuming she is lact-ovo



Wow.



Where's that ignore button again...
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^^^ I wouldn't fight fire with fire.



Just explain to her that it's your choice, and to please stop lecturing you on it. Let her know how you feel.



Also, just a friendly-reminder, it's in the TOS here that you are either vegan/vegetarian/are interested in reducing meat intake.
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Yeah, that's great. Turn it into a /fight/. Good idea, right there.
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#10 Old 04-15-2008, 07:38 PM
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Thanks Guys, Wow that was fast! =) I'll give it a try.
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Also - to the people who seem to get angery that im here...



I am interested - i try to be extreemly earth friendly and reducing meat is apart of that. If i didnt give a rat behind i wouldnt be here... Im veggie when im with her, im a part of a major vegan fellowship at my church, and the veggies that try to exclude me arent exactlly winning me over...



Good Job.
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A major vegan fellowship in a church? Tell me more! I've found few Christians in church settings to be interested in veg*nism, but that may be a location-based phenomenon.

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Also - to the people who seem to get angery that im here...



I am interested - i try to be extreemly earth friendly and reducing meat is apart of that. If i didnt give a rat behind i wouldnt be here... Im veggie when im with her, im a part of a major vegan fellowship at my church, and the veggies that try to exclude me arent exactlly winning me over...



No one is angry with you it's just that this is a vegetarian board for vegetarians or people ineterested in going vegetarian. That's all It is also confusing when you say you "are vegetarian" when you're with her since that's technically impossible. It might be easier and less confusing if you acknowledge that you just don't eat meat around her- which is very nice of you BTW.



I'm sorry you're experiencing exclusion from other vegetarians but again, being that you're not vegetarian and do in fact eat animals, it's not so much exclusion as it is that you are not a part of something and you are different. You make different choices and that's up to you but it may be easier if you understand that if you drive a car you may not be accepted in the "bicycles only" club.
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Im not sure it even is a church but its a lot like one, that's very open. http://www.uua.org/index.shtml A mine in my town we have a vegan pot luck atleast once a month, we have an organic garden, we have weekly discussions about living green and other things, we are having a green fair all sunday afternoon, and our main church service is open to all faiths. I love it i feel so at home. =)
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Also - to the people who seem to get angery that im here...



I am interested - i try to be extreemly earth friendly and reducing meat is apart of that. If i didnt give a rat behind i wouldnt be here... Im veggie when im with her, im a part of a major vegan fellowship at my church, and the veggies that try to exclude me arent exactlly winning me over...



Good Job.



No one is angry you are here, they were just pointing out the rules of the site. Are you interested in reducing your meat consumption completely? We're all happy to help with nutrition help, support and general info.



ETA If I ever went to church, I'd go to yours!!!
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Also - to the people who seem to get angery that im here...



I am interested - i try to be extreemly earth friendly and reducing meat is apart of that. If i didnt give a rat behind i wouldnt be here... Im veggie when im with her, im a part of a major vegan fellowship at my church, and the veggies that try to exclude me arent exactlly winning me over...



Good Job.







I was just telling you the rules of the site. Excuse me for warning you.
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