I've lived with an omnivore almost five years as a vegan. From the start I made it clear I would and will not handle or cook animal products. I am also the cook of our house and the breadwinner. What I have done is find vegan foods I know my partner will like and make those for him, or I make stuff like baked potatoes or tacos (I make a mean red lentil/bulgur wheat taco mix) or spaghetti, and he adds his stuff to his and I add my own stuff to mine.
If your family expects you to help out, you can still make vegetarian food for yourself and share, and you can offer to do other stuff like dishes and clean up, or help with grocery shopping so you can pick out what you need.
I set aside a time, away from the kitchen and food, to talk to my family and friends about why veganism is so important to me. I tried to do it in a nonjudgmental way, to make it more about me and what I learned, and not accusing others. But it was important for them to understand why I decided to go vegan and that the decision was and is very serious and not something to dismiss. My Mom still likes to give me a hard time sometimes when I visit her house and I read the labels of products she offers to put on my meal (nine times out of ten those products contain some animal ingredient I am not comfortable consuming, and my Mom does not read labels well). She'll tell me I am being too extreme and ridiculous, and yes it does hurt to be ridiculed in a condescending tone and not taken seriously, but I have learned to take it with a grain of salt.
I think it is really important to communicate your wishes with your family and why they are important to you, so that they have some kind of understanding. It may be difficult at first, so be willing to go out of your way in other regards to make up for the changes that may be hard for them. But also stand your ground and be consistent. When they see that this is truly important to you and not just a fad, they will begin to respect your decision more, especially if you work hard and take good care of yourself. Hang in there!
In the end, only kindness matters. - Jewel
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