Hi. I posted this in a smaller forum. Thought I might get some more feedback in here.
I've never participated much in internet discussions on my dietary choices because I feel it is an intensely private matter. However, I don't have many places to turn for advice as few I know are vegans or vegetarians (I live in Pennsylvania, hunting capital of the northeast), so I decided to look online.
When my male partner and I joined together after college, he was a vegetarian as was I. Recently, I moved toward veganism, which he was fine with, and I was comfortable with the situation as well. We have consistently been raising our male offspring to make vegetarian choices in food selection. He is now 12 and, until recently, had only eaten organic vegetarian food for his whole life.
For the past year or so, my male partner has been less enthusiastic about the meal choices at home. His appetite seemed to have diminished and he was less interested in the food I had cooked. This itself didn't strike me as terribly odd as I am a creature of habit who tends to enjoy eating a monotanous menu. Taking the implied cue, I switched up the menu and started offering a more diverse selection. He was still disinterested, which indicated to me there was another problem.
Recently, both he and our male offspring began going out on the weekends. I tend to enjoy staying around the house and tending my garden, so I never think it odd for them to go out together. Usually he will go to the store on weekends for groceries and such, especially considering the work I put in with the garden. The haul isn't too much for him to handle alone, as I grow much of our food (I am also into canning!) To my extreme disappointment, I've learned some horrifying developments with my two males.
Recently, I was using our digital camera to record the visible growth of my tomatos for fun. When reviewing the photographs, I discovered some horrifying developments. Our camera contained photos of out offspring holding a helpless fish, as if it were a trophy. I felt and still feel nauseus.
I am familiar with this practice (My father was a fisherman. His "sport" is part of why I began to turn away from an omnivorous diet as I couldn't imagine requiring an animal to endure being decapitated or otherwise slaughtered for my own benefit.) and it is consistent with what I saw growing up. I suspect the photographer of this heinous act was my partner.
I feel betrayed.
My partner has not only murdered or otherwise tortured a member of Earth's aquatic community, but he has introduced my offspring to the same behavior. I had been hoping to raise my offspring to refrain from such choices, but it seems that has now been destroyed.
Simply put, what options do I have? What can I do? Do I need to say something or should I remain quiet. I know my partner will be angry, but I feel it is my responsibility to stop him.