Originally Posted by VegRunnerLady
This is kinda long:
My mother-in-law does this. The first few times, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and assumed it was an accident. The last time it happened, I watched her read the ingredients. It took her kind of a while to read them, so I was about to ask her if there was anything she wasn't sure about, but she turned around, smiled at me, and said, "Yep, it's vegan". So, I trusted her.
On the way home, I started getting really bad stomach cramps, my husband said his stomach was a little upset also. So, when I got home I went online and checked the ingredients of the can of mixed greens she had fed us. It was a very short ingredient list, about 6 or 7 items and 3 of them were animal products. Not obscure animal products either. I'm talking lard, bacon fat, and pork fat. I realized it took her so long to read the ingredients, not because she was unsure of something, but because she was trying to decide if she could get away with it.
I was FURIOUS. I later told her it was unacceptable to lie to me about what's in my food. My husband and I were both sick because of what she did. Did she apologize? Nope. She said "Lying is a very strong word, young lady! I would never try to hurt you! Why are you trying to hurt me?" Yeah, she tried to guilt-trip me. Rediculous. I didn't say anything else to her about it, I just avoided her. I'm not really interested in dealing with that type of person - family or not.
The next time I saw her, she attacked me. I told her I would like an apology and a promise that it wouldn't happen again. She kept insisting that she didn't lie. Eventually, she apologized...sort of. She'd say, "I'm sorry, but not really. I didn't do anything wrong. If you can't accept my apology then that's on you." Uhhh, what am I supposed to do with that? She later resorted to personal attacks: "You've alienated your entire family and now you're trying to alienate mine." Uhhh? She doesn't know my family nor do I talk to her about them. And trust me, we get along great. "I hope you break your leg!" and she told my husband he deserves a better wife right infront of me. My husband and I left and went home.
On the way home, I got a text from her that said "Are we going to get over this, we're family."
I haven't spoken to her since. This was last Thanksgiving. I just don't want to deal with her. Really, it's not so much that there were animal products in my food, it's that she lied to me, tried to guilt trip me about it, and then said my husband deserved a better wife.