My grandma lives in Poland and even though I try to vosot her every year this happened on the phone...
My dad told her that I wasn't wating meat anymore, not sure what his intention or point was in saying anything since I haven't even bought my plane tickets for the next trip yet but he did. So, then she called me and started questions. I mentioned some health stuff and then started talking about AR stuff. And I should have never mentioned AR... She got upset that I would think it was terrible that animals were held in cages without any room since (and I am translating) "when I was transported in a cattle car for two weeks with no food and a barrel to ___ and s___ in, dead bodies around me, no knowing whether I was going to my death, no one wanted to save me. If I can experience that so can the animals."
After that I said I am sorry and you are right and stumbled off the phone. What should have I said? I mean, I think I will stick to health reasons although those arguments were getting nowhere with her since she is very old school but now I feel like I have offended her and she is updet at me. Sigh, any advice about how to fix things with grandma. I don't want her to hate me or think me insensitive... and I know this will come up again. How can I handle it then?
By the way, my grandma was transported like that to a Soviet work camp in Kazahstan during WWII and did not get released until the late 50s.
ÂNothing can cure the soul but the senses, just as nothing can cure the senses but the soul.Â - Oscar Wilde