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#1 Old 11-30-2009, 05:18 PM
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You guys know what I'm talking about. You're home from college for winter break, and on a nice restaurant outing with your family. Everyone orders what they usually do, but fear me not, you deviate. Then it begins.



"Hey, son, why aren't you getting your usual thursday night burger special?"



"Oh, I forgot to mention it to you - I became a veg*n."



"Hm. What made you want to become a veg*n?"



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Get the idea? Yeah, well, I'd be interested in hearing how the conversation plays out for you guys when you're explaining to someone for what reason(s) you became one. It'd be very helpful when you type out your response that you word it as closely as possible to how you would actually respond back to them verbally.



(I liked my title as it was, thanks.)
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#2 Old 11-30-2009, 05:25 PM
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"What made you want to become a veg*n?"

Me: "Ethical reasons."

Option 1: They want to remain ignorant so they change the subject.

Option 2: Some variation of "can you expand on that"

Me: "I'm doing a degree in animal behaviour and I couldn't justify contributing to the cruelty inflicted on farmed animals knowing what I know about them. The scientific evidence points to them being sentient and fully able to suffer and I can't stand the thought of what they go through just to get meat on my plate. Veg*n diets are great for reducing your carbon footprint, meat production puts a massive strain on the earth's resources. There can also be great health benefits if you eat wisely, but I'm proof [I'm a fat vegan] that there is way too much tasty vegan food out there!"

Them: "...but I couldn't live without bacon. It's so tasty."

Me:



There are a million variations, it'd be impossible to type them all out. If your family are quite environment aware you might want to go at it more from that slant than from the ethics, likewise if they're health freaks go at it from the health benefits. Just don't make any claims that you can't back up because they will pounce on anything you say, if they're hostile, and try to "discredit" you.



Good luck, it'll probably go way better than you think
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I got that question within my first year going veg. My mom and I were eating at a Brazilian restaurant and I turned down roast beef that a waiter was slicing up on a portable cart. I think I told her I was trying to eat healthier. I was not ashamed of being vegetarian. I had a real reason to hide it from her. Before I was born, my grandmother died from malnutrition because she was vegetarian. So, of course when my mom found out I went vegetarian, she flipped out and lectured to no end. To ease her mind, I researched nutrition like crazy and told her that her mother probably died because she didn't know enough about nutrition and wasn't eating right. Today, the internet makes it so much easier. She researched into it, too. I think she learned that being vegetarian is actually a healthy lifestyle if you do it right. It's kind of funny, once in a while she will run across something and tell me about it. The only thing she got one up on me is the fact that not all nutritional yeast contains B12. Every other nutritional fact I already knew.



Do your research and have facts to back yourself up. You will most likely get some resistance. Most people hate change. They will worry about your health, how much trouble it will cause them with cooking for you, they fear what they do not know much about, etc.
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Yeah, if you're nervous or it's a bad time to expand/you feel they would be defensive, I'd keep the answer short, "I feel it's best for me and the animals to be veg*n." "It feels like a good decision for me. Thanks for asking!"
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Yeah, if you're nervous or it's a bad time to expand/you feel they would be defensive, I'd keep the answer short, "I feel it's best for me and the animals to be veg*n." "It feels like a good decision for me. Thanks for asking!"





This is great advice! No need for a long explanation...plenty of time for that later once they are really ready to know why.
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I got that question within my first year going veg. My mom and I were eating at a Brazilian restaurant and I turned down roast beef that a waiter was slicing up on a portable cart. I think I told her I was trying to eat healthier. I was not ashamed of being vegetarian. I had a real reason to hide it from her. Before I was born, my grandmother died from malnutrition because she was vegetarian. So, of course when my mom found out I went vegetarian, she flipped out and lectured to no end. To ease her mind, I researched nutrition like crazy and told her that her mother probably died because she didn't know enough about nutrition and wasn't eating right. Today, the internet makes it so much easier. She researched into it, too. I think she learned that being vegetarian is actually a healthy lifestyle if you do it right. It's kind of funny, once in a while she will run across something and tell me about it. The only thing she got one up on me is the fact that not all nutritional yeast contains B12. Every other nutritional fact I already knew.



Do your research and have facts to back yourself up. You will most likely get some resistance. Most people hate change. They will worry about your health, how much trouble it will cause them with cooking for you, they fear what they do not know much about, etc.



Wow Thanx for Sharing The Story



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This is great advice! No need for a long explanation...plenty of time for that later once they are really ready to know why.



exactly





I have to be honest I really didnt have that convo with my parents....they already knew.....My Mom Has the funniest stories about me hiding meat on my plate and sausage in cabinets when I was a youngster so I didnt have to eat it and she didnt force me at all....there I was extremely lucky....when I was 15 I Told My Family I was Going Vegan...Yess I was Vegan first....and My Mom was like so what took you sooooo long.....I am celebrating My Veggie-Versary 20 Years In December....My Mom says It should be longer....hehe....



My Parents did have a concern because I have had Eating Issues and They were concerned....Other Than That They were sooooo supportive soooo long as I am a Healthy and Happy Veg and I am



Sooooo Good Luck with How You do It and I agree research and be ready and discuss when You want too.



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