I politely e-mailed the office administrator saying that I was going to sit this one out, and that I'm not really one for steakhouses and left it at that. She was cool with it, my boss was fine with it (and said his wife isn't coming because she doesn't like them either) but the other women in the office are throwing a fit. Part of why I don't want to go is the steakhouse, and the other part is because of the hellish week I had last week, and I feel like I have personally been trompled on by some of them, and that they have no regard for my time and my workload. I don't want to fight with them, and I'm also not feeling up to "playing nice." One of them has been almost like a mother-figure to me (you all don't know the sordid story of my family, but anyway) and I have felt really hurt by her disregard for my time. She makes three times as much as me and puts in half the hours, so that adds to how insulting it is that my time seems to be so disregarded. I think they were already mad at me last week for speaking out against this, but now it's all hugs and love, and why aren't you coming? I don't want to get into my ethical or personal reasons for it, but now I fear there's going to be some sort of backlash. It isn't just about what there is or isn't there for me to eat. Contrary to the assumptions on here
I am not vegan, but "only" vegetarian, but I am intensely uncomfortable being around meat eating. My fiance is Vegetarian as well, so we are rarely confronted with it. I can deal with it sufficiently when I am in a normal frame of mind, but I am wounded and tired and so anxious for my holidays (which start friday!
) that I just don't want to deal with the lunch on top of everything else, but I am afraid now they're all gonna be madder at me if I don't go. Geez.
But I don't want to get into any of this with them, I just tried to duck out politely and they threw a fit. Keep in mind, I work from home so who knows what they're saying about me since I'm not around.
Anyway, sigh. I really don't want to go, because of the steakhouse, because I need a break from the office stuff, because I feel hurt by their treatment of me, but I wonder if it will be more damaging to NOT go.