Originally Posted by bethanie
I think a lot of women really shortchange what they can do on their own. Men often get a lot more freedom to do this than women who (at least in some regions) are pretty much just expected to get hitched. I think it's so good for women to spend time being independent and knowing they can make a go of life on their own when that situation presents itself.
I'm glad you mentioned this. There is a ton of societal pressure to get "hitched" being geared towards single mothers. I know that among my peers there is definitely a young/teen mama hierarchy where the married mothers are at the very top and the single mothers who can't even find their kid's dads (me) are at the very bottom. There is a definite stigma attached to being a single mother and it seems like marriage is the way to get up the social ladder and into acceptance again. Even on TV and in movies there is always this image of the "poor, heart broken, struggling, single mother" just waiting to be SAVED by a man. And lets not forget all the ads telling us that we must marry or our children will be delinquents, drug addicts, etc.
People are shocked to hear that I actually enjoy being a single mom, and that I don't have any interest or desire to marry. I often get unsolicited "advise" like, "that baby needs a daddy", or "Don't worry you'll get married eventually, just give it time." Blech.
This isn't to say that I consider single parenthood easy, or that I don't desire companionship (or sex), but why is it so offensive for me to want a life of my own, without a man, just because I have a child?