I NEED some advice for how to deal with people you love trying out vegetarianism then quitting (or never trying it at all). I became a vegetarian 7 years ago when I was 11 and a vegan about a year ago and (obviously) my life is completely changed for the better because of these decisions. The only thing is, especially when I became vegan, I became SOOOO passionate about it as I'm sure a lot of us have experienced. But it's been getting to a point that I think may possibly be affecting my relationships with some of my friends and family.
Because veganism is so awesome and healthy and eyeopening and just overall liberating, I really want my friends and family to share this with me. I would present the idea in such a way that was not preachy or so I'd like to think, but really showed my general investment in their own happiness. Lately, some of my loved ones have made the decision to try out vegetarianism because they are inspired and feel motivated! Such as my mom, my good friend, and my little 7 year old sister. When this happened I was soo happy for them.
What has ended up happening with some of them though, with the 3 people I just mentioned in particular, is that they tried out vegetarianism and then some months or some weeks later they lost their motivation, their finding it inconvenient, the friend and I lose contact, some of their friends and family make fun of them, etc, and they stop vegetarianism completely with the idea "Okay, I can say I tried it now."
And then, here's the problem... instead of being respectful of their opinion and their views (which I know is the right way to go), I get SO DAMN MAD. Like, when I hear the news, either primarily or secondarily, I feel my blood start to boil and I get really down because I start having thoughts like "How could they? Do they know how harmful that is?? Who convinced them to change?? Do they even care about animals at all? I can't believe they saw the light and now they don't! Do they realize this could stop them from being fat?" and you can imagine some other things I was thinking, some things pretty cruel. And then I feel like I failed. I feel like I didn't correctly spread the word of veganism. I take PERSONAL OFFENSE to it. Sometimes this makes me want to not see them anymore, or throw all the meat out of the fridge out of resentment. I know, crazy and psychotic right?? (I never did these radical things but I thought about them which is a problem in itself.)
Why might I be taking such personal offense to this? I know that anger and resentment is never the right way to spread a peaceful idea. So does anyone have any tips for how I might deal with situations like that in the future? I still wish they would share that diet with me. And I still feel resentment and anger when I look in my mom and sibling's refrigerator and I see hot dogs, chicken wings, bacon, etc and sometimes it just makes me sick.
And does anyone have any tips on how to present veganism/vegetarianism to a loved one or a friend just in general?
I appreciate it, thanks everyone.