irizary.. i typed exteemly IMMATURE.
and AlixJ. are you starting to kinda see where i was coming from. what you wrote kinda plays into what i was trying to convey.
if a mature (ex.) 8yo or immature say 12yo wants to go with grampa hunting let em.. if you can stand to.. if you have instilled the right attitude in your child, that one trip should take care of things.. then you have no issues worrying about your and your kids relationship with your parents/in-laws. each child is different. some will require that, others will just say, no thanks. why is the core fear that the child will just fall into it after you have had years to condition them? let the child blossom instead of retarding them.
No see because 16 and 8 or 12 is very different. I think if a grandparent wanted to take a 16 year old hunting and the kid wanted to do it fine it's their choice, but i've seen that pro-hunters often want to start them off young, i won't let my 8 year old make the decision to go with because i'm not only against killing animals, i'm against children with guns, especially going with some conservative old person going off to shoot live animals, i simply wouldn't trust that person with a gun with my child, not to mention little kids may want to go for other reasons than to actually hunt, maybe they are scared or intimidated by their grandpa, maybe they just want to fit in, or think that's the only way they can bond, maybe they want to shoot at stuff but it doesn't need to be animals. With all of these i would rather the grandparent do some other bonding activity, and if the kid just wants to shoot stuff i'll get him/her a bb gun and some cans. I was a shy kid, at 8 if my grandparent told me they were going to take me hunting and my parents let me i would have done it, only because i would have been afraid of hurting his feelings, and at the expense of my own i would have willingly traumatized myself and felt very guilty later on if any animals were killed, i know my parents would have forbid me from going if that ever came up, they weren't vegetarian but did not like guns, and i'm really glad they would have stopped me from making a stupid mistake as a child. 13 is the point when i really grew up and actually thought for myself.