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06-08-2016 10:33 AM
Symondezyn
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Originally Posted by veganfitnessjunkie View Post
It definitely can be a bit awkward at first. Mostly the anxiety beforehand. I just tell people when it is relevant.

I actually was vegan for almost 2 weeks before telling anyone until I eventually mentioned it to my sister (who I lived with at the time) when she suggested getting a rotisserie chicken for dinner. Then I casually mentioned it to the rest of my family. I mentioned it to friends when it came up naturally. I never made a big announcement out of it.

At work I eventually told them because telling people I was vegan was less awkward than stubbornly turning down basically any food anyone offered. That way they understood why and rather than being weird, I was weird with principles.

I think part of the reason I avoid telling people is because I don't want to be perceived as preachy and judgmental. It's awkward to tell people that you have taken a moral stance that even if you don't think they are bad people, implies you think what 99% of the population is doing is wrong.

I also know that for almost everyone I spend time with, I may be the only vegan they know. Their opinion of vegans will in large part be based on me. How I behave. How I advocate for the animals. I don't want people to be completely turned off from veganism because of the way I go about it.
I like that. "weird with principles" I can identify with that! LOL

I agree, and me too! I know a few vegetarians, but I'm the only vegan in any social group I'm part of. My carefulness in how I approach telling people has been because like you, I want to be a good advocate for veganism; I think it's really important not to alienate people, and there is definitely a stigma that vegans are judgy. Food is such a personal and emotionally charged topic; it's a tough barrier to breach, but I feel like the more I can show people it's easy, friendly, wonderful and delicious, the less alien it will seem, and the more we can breach that gap ^_^
06-07-2016 08:12 PM
veganfitnessjunkie It definitely can be a bit awkward at first. Mostly the anxiety beforehand. I just tell people when it is relevant.

I actually was vegan for almost 2 weeks before telling anyone until I eventually mentioned it to my sister (who I lived with at the time) when she suggested getting a rotisserie chicken for dinner. Then I casually mentioned it to the rest of my family. I mentioned it to friends when it came up naturally. I never made a big announcement out of it.

At work I eventually told them because telling people I was vegan was less awkward than stubbornly turning down basically any food anyone offered. That way they understood why and rather than being weird, I was weird with principles.

I think part of the reason I avoid telling people is because I don't want to be perceived as preachy and judgmental. It's awkward to tell people that you have taken a moral stance that even if you don't think they are bad people, implies you think what 99% of the population is doing is wrong.

I also know that for almost everyone I spend time with, I may be the only vegan they know. Their opinion of vegans will in large part be based on me. How I behave. How I advocate for the animals. I don't want people to be completely turned off from veganism because of the way I go about it.
06-07-2016 07:36 PM
Nietzscha
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Originally Posted by Militia Ink View Post
Yes! This is me. I've researched and researched all the reasons why I'm vegan, and yet, can't put it into words when I'm speaking to someone about it. I've gotten better, but it didn't really help before that I didn't want to talk about it.

To the original poster, I know what you mean. Not many people know that I'm vegan, but when I do, they are generally supportive. The reason why I don't want to say anything, because I don't want to feel like a burden (I come from a family who's very hospitable and always look out for other people, especially when it comes to food), but this is who you are. It's important for people to know, so you can find who are truly your friends.
Wow, I just said something very similar in a post. I can research and KNOW exactly why veganism makes the most sense, and yet, when I have to articulate my reasons, I suddenly don't have much to say.

I also come from a family who worries a lot about others in terms of food. I'm from the South (North America) where food is the culture that brings everyone together. In my parents' family, it's important that you make sure everyone can enjoy your food, and veganism makes it really hard, since my father has no idea how to even cook veggies without toooooones of butter! If anyone could speak to dealing with family/friends on this issue, it seems like this would be a good question to do it in!
06-05-2016 09:35 AM
Symondezyn
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Originally Posted by Gita View Post
I had no idea that Vegan was the latest diet trend.
Oh yeah, it's a thing LOL. Someone came up with the "22 day vegan challenge" and it's all the rage in Hollywood - even Beyonce has gotten on board, although she is one of those ones who say's she's vegan but still eats meat "occasionally" *grr*
06-05-2016 06:00 AM
Gita I had no idea that Vegan was the latest diet trend.
06-04-2016 10:48 PM
@rno Just trow the ball back (as we say in Holland) and ask "Why do you eat meat?"

Usualy they give an answer on which you can reply on.
06-04-2016 04:06 PM
Symondezyn
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Originally Posted by Militia Ink View Post
To the original poster, I know what you mean. Not many people know that I'm vegan, but when I do, they are generally supportive. The reason why I don't want to say anything, because I don't want to feel like a burden (I come from a family who's very hospitable and always look out for other people, especially when it comes to food), but this is who you are. It's important for people to know, so you can find who are truly your friends.
I completely agree - I have also had people ask me if I was "just trying it out" and I've said, no, it's absolutely permanent. If it's a question of ethics (which for me it is), I think it's not only important to tell people what you're doing but also that you are convicted
06-04-2016 03:59 PM
Militia Ink
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Originally Posted by Nietzscha View Post
This has been really hard for me as well. I know all my reasons/data/research/values for wanting to be vegan, but I lack confidence, and as soon as someone asks me about it, it's like I get all nervous and I can't articulate my reasons in any coherent way. I have told my family that I'm "testing out" what it's like to be vegan so that hopefully in a couple of months I can say "well, I decided to stay this way" and have all my reasons ready and auditioned to some extent :P .
Yes! This is me. I've researched and researched all the reasons why I'm vegan, and yet, can't put it into words when I'm speaking to someone about it. I've gotten better, but it didn't really help before that I didn't want to talk about it.

To the original poster, I know what you mean. Not many people know that I'm vegan, but when I do, they are generally supportive. The reason why I don't want to say anything, because I don't want to feel like a burden (I come from a family who's very hospitable and always look out for other people, especially when it comes to food), but this is who you are. It's important for people to know, so you can find who are truly your friends.
06-04-2016 03:52 PM
Nietzscha This has been really hard for me as well. I know all my reasons/data/research/values for wanting to be vegan, but I lack confidence, and as soon as someone asks me about it, it's like I get all nervous and I can't articulate my reasons in any coherent way. I have told my family that I'm "testing out" what it's like to be vegan so that hopefully in a couple of months I can say "well, I decided to stay this way" and have all my reasons ready and auditioned to some extent :P .
06-04-2016 03:51 PM
Symondezyn
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Originally Posted by @rno View Post
At my work nobody knows that I am a vegetarian (and save the world).
wow, your superhero disguise must be REALLY good! ^_^
06-04-2016 01:58 PM
@rno At my work nobody knows that I am a vegetarian (and save the world).
06-04-2016 09:14 AM
Symondezyn
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Originally Posted by @rno View Post
As a vegan you save the world. Why feeling awkward?
I am just not the type of person who likes to be the center of attention. I agree with you, and think it's really important to be a good "vegan ambassador" so to speak, so I will talk very openly about my decision and why I chose this path... but it still makes me feel a little uncomfortable ^_^

As it turned out there was a birthday yesterday too so I wound up having the Big V discussion with the whole office LOL - it was good, they asked lots of questions and were very supportive; I was very pleasantly surprised!
06-03-2016 06:18 PM
LedBoots
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As a vegan you save the world. Why feeling awkward?
The Superhero outfits are a tad embarrassing, for the most part [emoji6]
06-03-2016 02:49 PM
@rno As a vegan you save the world. Why feeling awkward?
06-03-2016 10:32 AM
Symondezyn
"coming out" as a vegan

This is one of the things I think was the hardest for me - particularly with people who've known me a long time. There is an inner anxiety attached to announcing a big life change, no matter how confident you are. My biggest concerns were that people would think I was just being flaky or trying the newest diet trend, which is why I've made a point with everyone so far to clarify (without being preachy) that it is for ethical reasons.

So far, I've shared my decision with my immediate family, close friends, and today, my workplace. The work one was the hardest because we have birthday cakes and group lunches all the time and I was debating what to say, and when to say it, without making a big scene or being weird and awkward about it.

As it turns out, it happened without me even thinking about it. My boss had brought in some banana loaf, and offered me some, and before I knew it, I was saying "no thank you - in fact, I should let you know that for the last while, I've been vegan" He looked a little surprised but gave me the thumbs up LOL. Since I've been on diets before I clarified that it was not for dietary reasons, but for ethical reasons, so it will not be a temporary thing ^_^ I also followed it up by thanking him for bringing in the treat, and promising to bring in some vegan cupcakes in the near future, to which he said "you better!" which is just further proof that cupcakes make everything a little better LOL :P

It even sparked a conversation with one of my other coworkers, where I was able to explain what brought me to the decision as well as some food choices etc ^__^

I still feel a bit awkward - I'm not the kind of girl who likes being the center of attention, but in this case it was needed and I think all the major confrontations are hopefully done with now LOL.

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