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02-15-2016 11:20 AM
ZoroAdams Wow this is the great news. I am so happy.Hope that old lady and cat will spent a lot of time together. Thanks for informing us.
02-14-2016 09:46 AM
karenlovessnow This is great news!


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02-14-2016 07:50 AM
silva I'm so happy those cats found good homes!
One of my first foster cats was from a similar situation-older cat that out lived her home. She also went to an older woman and it was a great match!
Those stories really give me hope for others
Thanks for letting us know!
02-13-2016 09:47 PM
jacqui276 Glad that you were able to find the cat a home!

My aunt and uncle passed away within a week of each other a year and a half ago and they had a, at the time, 12 year old cat. My aunt was really scared to let go since she didn't know what would happen to the cat so I agreed to take him (I already had another cat and 2 large dogs). He is declawed, has no teeth other than his fangs and is uber cranky but we've made it work. I introduced him slowly (he lived in the bathroom for the first bit) and he has made large strides. The other animals (including my 2 year old cat with claws) get along fine with him. He used to bite my children randomly and he doesn't anymore. He hisses way less and comes for regular snuggles now. He was definitely a lot of work to get him to where he fits in with our busy family, but I'm glad that I was able to provide him with a good home for my aunt.
02-13-2016 08:16 PM
Rocket All: some incredibly great news... The kitty has a great new home, with an older single lady who has experience with elderly cats! She was looking for a new kitty, and she wanted an older one. She came over and met the kitty today - the kitty actually walked up to her and allowed herself to be petted a little bit. This lady is an old friend of mine who I had not seen in several years and we just decided to get together for coffee - I told her what had happened, and she mentioned she was looking for a cat!

I am taking the kitty to the new home tomorrow morning.

Thank you all for your help and suggestions. Sometimes, it's the most unexpected place where you get results!!

I will sleep a lot better tonight.
02-12-2016 08:01 AM
ZoroAdams
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Originally Posted by Rocket View Post
Hi All,

I need some ideas. A good friend of mine may be in an "end of life" situation and he has asked me, if he dies, to find a home for his 14-year old cat.

This is where it gets tough... Cocoa is incredibly beautiful and healthy, but she has a terrible personality. She was declawed as a kitten, and then a few years later the couple that adopted her died, which likely accounts for her bad temperament. She swats and hisses at pretty much anything and everything, including my friend. If she sees another cat through the screen door, she goes crazy with stress.

I already have a cat and I really hesitate to try to bring Cocoa here... Empress has claws and she is not afraid to use them, and though she will co-exist with other cats, she does not thrive in that situation. At best, Empress would become subdued and depressed. At worst, she could get sick (it's happened before when I've had other animals in the house) or she could injure the new addition.

Does anyone have any idea if there are rescue organizations that specialize in difficult cats? How would I find such a group? My initial web searches have only turned up the "regular" rescues. I'm afraid a regular rescue would not take Cocoa because she would be tough to re-home.

I am still hoping my friend will live, obviously... But things are not looking too good and I feel like I need to start preparing for the worst. I appreciate any ideas on this matter.

-Rocket
Post it on your Facebook wall, or find nearby rescue animal center and contact them.Try over social media, the word travels fast over the social networks.
02-11-2016 05:16 PM
silva I haven't had issues between cats who've been declawed, and have integrated many older cats from every type of background an temperment I can imagine. It isn't easy, and I did have a room for the newcomers (fosters) to adjust. they were then given time to slowly acclimate themselves to the household when adoption was ruled out. But then I always had more than one. I also feel cats esp do best with others, and esp when raised together, or siblings.
You may be surprised if you have a room for Cocoa. Given time they may find they tolerate each other just fine
02-11-2016 11:52 AM
Beautiful Joe
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Declawed cats can and often do coexist with cats with claws. At the rescue I worked at, we housed them together without any issues.
Yes, my household has always consisted of a mix of declawed/intact claws cats, and there has never been an issue (over the course of about four decades).
02-11-2016 11:19 AM
dormouse Declawed cats can and often do coexist with cats with claws. At the rescue I worked at, we housed them together without any issues.

Best of luck. When you contact rescues, be sure to tell them the seriousness of the situation. They may be more lenient with their intake criteria.
02-11-2016 11:15 AM
Beautiful Joe I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.

I will be keeping my fingers crossed for Cocoa. She is fortunate to at least have you looking out for her.
02-11-2016 04:42 AM
Rocket Good morning,

Sad news to report - my friend has passed away. I thank everyone for your suggestions regarding little Cocoa. I am going to start making phone calls today. I am really hoping for a happy ending for her.

-Rocket
02-06-2016 06:51 PM
VeggieSince88 I completely understand, and empathize with, your friend's feelings/desires. One thing I'd like to throw out there is that Cocoa MAY NOT be as difficult to place as you're thinking. I say that from personal experience.

Some years ago I adopted a mature adult, declawed cat with a grumpy disposition. At the time, I had two Great Danes (in the house, of course), two parakeets, five cats, and a parrot. Most of my cats had claws. I brought Maggie May in and gradually coaxed her out of her shell--believe me, this was not easy and did not happen overnight. Just as you've described Cocoa, Maggie would hiss and swat and just basically be quite unpleasant...toward me, the other cats, the dogs, whatever! I got to a point with her that I could pull her out from under my bed without being bitten (severely), then I'd sit on the bed and just hold her in my arms. She'd look at me like, "oh, woman, if you only knew what I want to do to you right now!" But I'd just calmly stroke her and talk to her, and it was just us, no one else allowed in the room for this bonding time every day. It definitely took time, but she became a sweet, affectionate cat who liked to sleep on me and purr. I think any betting person would've said THAT outcome was impossible, but it happened.

My point being that it may be possible to place Cocoa in a household that already has other pets, even cats with claws, if the humans are willing and able to spend time with her and reassure her that it's a safe place. They must keep in mind how traumatized the poor thing already is, and will be even more so by the time this happens, but I believe it could work out.
02-06-2016 02:47 PM
Beautiful Joe Oye, this is why I advise people, if they want a kitten, to adopt two; cats who grow up with at least one other cat are so much better adjusted and socialized.

It would be hard to place Cocoa even if she got along well with other animals, since so few people are willing to take older animals. (I myself have a real weakness for the older ones.)

I would recommend contacting Best Friends. They do have resources that most shelters don't, since they have national support, and if you explain the situation to them fully, maybe they can help, or direct you to someone who can help.

http://bestfriends.org/about/our-mission
02-06-2016 02:29 PM
Rocket ...I had not even thought of finding a home via Veggie Boards, but you know what, if anyone in another city could take the kitty or knows a local rescue that could help, I'd be willing to transport her. The kitty currently lives in Colorado.

A few more details. It's just one kitty, and so far, we are not hearing of anyone else willing or able to take her, though I have not given up the idea of a family member (he only has some cousins in another state, no other family). The only other friends who might have been willing to take her already have animals, and we're pretty sure that would not be a good situation. We've talked about this at some length already; he is extremely concerned about what will happen to the cat - in fact I think may be the only reason he has held on so long. I think his work is about the only "organization," per se, that he's involved in, not sure if that could be a possibility? I will look into that.

I would far prefer Cocoa go to an actual home - but her temperament will make it tough to find one, I'm afraid. If it has to be a rescue, that's better than the pound! And there would be some chance of "the right person" falling in love with her.
02-06-2016 01:47 PM
silva wow, no other family or friends?
There are senior rescues by me but it would be so bad if they stayed in cages most of the time!
Was your friend active in any organizations or church or something were you discuss posting signs for a home? Maybe even while they're still here so the cat could transition?
02-06-2016 01:37 PM
Spudulika
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Originally Posted by Rocket View Post
Hi All,

I need some ideas. A good friend of mine may be in an "end of life" situation and he has asked me, if he dies, to find a home for his 14-year old cat.

This is where it gets tough... Cocoa is incredibly beautiful and healthy, but she has a terrible personality. She was declawed as a kitten, and then a few years later the couple that adopted her died, which likely accounts for her bad temperament. She swats and hisses at pretty much anything and everything, including my friend. If she sees another cat through the screen door, she goes crazy with stress.

I already have a cat and I really hesitate to try to bring Cocoa here... Empress has claws and she is not afraid to use them, and though she will co-exist with other cats, she does not thrive in that situation. At best, Empress would become subdued and depressed. At worst, she could get sick (it's happened before when I've had other animals in the house) or she could injure the new addition.

Does anyone have any idea if there are rescue organizations that specialize in difficult cats? How would I find such a group? My initial web searches have only turned up the "regular" rescues. I'm afraid a regular rescue would not take Cocoa because she would be tough to re-home.

I am still hoping my friend will live, obviously... But things are not looking too good and I feel like I need to start preparing for the worst. I appreciate any ideas on this matter.

-Rocket
Gosh, I wish I were in a position to help. I have a huge amount of time for traumatised pet behaviours. As I'm away from home and at work a lot and we also have two other kitties, sadly I can't see it working. When our current (inherited) boys go, my priority will be to home 'hard to home' kitties with behavioural difficulties.

For the point of reference it may be worthwhile letting us all know where you and the kitties are?
02-06-2016 06:13 AM
Rocket
How to find a home for an older, persnickety cat

Hi All,

I need some ideas. A good friend of mine may be in an "end of life" situation and he has asked me, if he dies, to find a home for his 14-year old cat.

This is where it gets tough... Cocoa is incredibly beautiful and healthy, but she has a terrible personality. She was declawed as a kitten, and then a few years later the couple that adopted her died, which likely accounts for her bad temperament. She swats and hisses at pretty much anything and everything, including my friend. If she sees another cat through the screen door, she goes crazy with stress.

I already have a cat and I really hesitate to try to bring Cocoa here... Empress has claws and she is not afraid to use them, and though she will co-exist with other cats, she does not thrive in that situation. At best, Empress would become subdued and depressed. At worst, she could get sick (it's happened before when I've had other animals in the house) or she could injure the new addition.

Does anyone have any idea if there are rescue organizations that specialize in difficult cats? How would I find such a group? My initial web searches have only turned up the "regular" rescues. I'm afraid a regular rescue would not take Cocoa because she would be tough to re-home.

I am still hoping my friend will live, obviously... But things are not looking too good and I feel like I need to start preparing for the worst. I appreciate any ideas on this matter.

-Rocket

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