“May all sentient beings be free of pain and suffering. May all sentient beings experience eternal joy and happiness. gate gate pāragate pārasaṃgate bodhi svāhā.”
I do have to agree with the others. I don't understand why you can't shop and cook for yourself? If you want to be vegan badly enough, you'll have to take the initiative to take care of your needs yourself too.
Buy your own food as much as you can. Unfortunately you can't expect people to understand and support the whole "vegan" thing if they aren't passionate about veganism like you are - you can still join them for meals, you will just have to cook more of them yourself.
At lot of people think veganism is "going too far" ...my mom felt this way in the beginning as well... but you are old enough to walk your path and make your own choices. When confronted with the "going too far" arguement, I just let them know that I gladly make these 'sacrifices' as it fulfills me as a person. I always reply positively about it, because to me, veganism is a positive action and I want my speech to reflect that.
can you take one day in the week to go shopping w/ your mom...under the guise of "helping" even (not as a vegan scavenger hunt?)... that way, you can pick out vegan mashed pots vs your usual brand, vegan PB, etc?
that way, your mom hasnt gone out of her way, and in a way, has bought"accidently" vegan products. hopefully, she will continue w/ those brands.
also: potatoes are cheaper than those mashed boxes, as are most fresh fruits/ vegs. if you get a chance, purchase some staple foods for your pantry...beans, frozen vegs/ fruits, freeze your vegan bread, freeze tofu, etc....buy them when they go on sale.
The point is, I try not to deal with this sort of ignorance but it still angers me all the same. I can not understand how ppl do what they do and think the way they do but since we have to share the world with these kinds of selfish beings I guess the best thing to do is try and realize where it is coming from. Your mom is probably a victim of her society just as my bf dad is. Chances are she is more reasonable than my bf's dad is anyway. I have tried to give him the "meet your meat" video to watch but of course he did not watch it and continues to act as though something is wrong with me for not wanting to be a part of the ongoing animal holocaust that is going on and for wanting to be active and do something about it, but maybe your mom would be willing to be educated on the subject as to why you do not want to consume dairy. If not than I would suggest not even talking to her about it. Although I firmly believe that it is our duty to the animals to spread the message about their plight as often and to as many as we can and I also believe that this is just as important as giving up eating animal products and adopting a vegan lifestyle, but at the same time, however, there are certain people who will never understand or get what this is all about so therefore trying to talk to people like this about it does nothing but cause yourself a big headache and heartache.