So I went vegan about half a year ago (previously vegetarian for 8 years), no slip ups at all, ever since I became aware of the harm that meat and dairy consumption does to our bodies, the animals and the environment.
My mother has had breast cancer (it runs in our family) and has survived for 6 years even though her stage was deemed terminal.
Since veganism was such a miracle to my health and body and had so many positive effects with cancer prevention I wanted to share my lifestyle with her. We watched Cowspiracy, Forks over Knives, dr greger and freele's videos on cancer and her reasons not to eat "meat/ dairy/ eggs/ cheese" videos. She even started reading the 80/10/10 book.
My mother wanted to become vegan and tried. She started very well for the first few months. Yet once a week, she would eat cheese even though there were vegan cheese options because she "needed the flavor". I told her about casein and how dairy was addictive, about the millions of pus cells in dairy, about the 15% increase in cancer risk that just an increase of 3% of animal protein in one day caused.
She didn't care.
Yesterday I went to an Italian restaurant with her and some friends who I hadn't seen in years. I had a cheese-less pizza and thought she'd do the same.
She ate an entire large cheese pizza. Worse yet, she ordered a HUGE MEAT PLATTER because she figured my friends who were sitting on the table with us were hungry for an entree and focaccia with truffles wasn't generous enough. When the plate arrived, They weren't even hungry for it and SHE ENCOURAGED THEM TO EAT SOME OVER AND OVER. SHE ATE SOME TOO OUT OF "POLITENESS".
When I asked her why she willingly chose to eat cancer and even worse, willingly dared to order a dead corpse fest (with a less aggressive talk but these words still in mind), she said it was her choice, that I wasn't her mother, that the more I told her what to do the less she wanted to be vegan (funnily enough, I only asked a question, I genuinely wanted to understand).
What do I do? My mother is hooked on cigarettes, coffee, alcohol and "animal drugs". Even after watching all of the documentaries,during which she closed her eyes at every slaughterhouse scene. I love my mother, but I don't want her illness to return and I'm finding it increasingly difficult to share an affectionate relationship with someone who is aware of the cruelty yet chooses cruelty. Should I be patient? Should I give up? What do I do? I'm desperate and it's heartbreaking