Thanks for all the replies.
When my son had come to me about being vegetarian I immediately wanted to do what I could to help him . But since very little
research went into that decision it was so easy for me to get scared and give up. I just fell back on our old ways because it was easier to do that then try to come up with alternatives. My mind was so jumbled and confussed that the only way to quiet it was to push it all away and act like this whole thing never came up at all.
When I first tried going vegetarian I assumed the only thing we would be eating were the few veggies we liked and soy and tofu ( thats what happens when you don't do research) One small book and I was on my way. At first I would literally just eat the veggies I had cooked with my families meal and maybe a salad on the side. As you can imagine I though "how in the world can I /we possibly eat this way forever " ? And because of that I backed down easily . Especially when I thought I was hurting my sons by removing the main source of protein ( atleast in our house) from their diets. I really had no idea that there were so many other natural protein sources out there. That may sound stupid , but its the truth. I had no idea how to cook a well rounded vegetarian meal and got very scared.
But when i decided to research and really try to understand it ,not only for him but for myself, I couldn't keep my mind quiet anymore... I had too many questions and thoughts. A board like this is a life saver when your lost and have no idea what to do! So thank you all for your replies and I will keep learning and reading and lurking .
As for the meat eaters in my house...they will (for now) continue to eat their meat , which I (for now) will cook for them. But my DH did come to a compromise.... 3-4 nights a week we will all eat a vegetarian meal ( a fully rounded meal not just some brocoli on a plate
) and the other nights I will coook for them what they love , its a start.
Thank you all for helping me see there are many ways to go about this. I guess its better to start somewhere then to just keep on living the way I was out of convenience.