Two of my closest friends, who will be hereafter known as Jess and Nate, have been pulling a few stunts I just don't appreciate. Jess and Nate have been dating for 9 months now, and a month ago they broke up for two weeks and then got back together. I'm tight with both of them. Since they got back together, they have had very little time for me.
We were supposed to get together after I got off of work on July 4th. When I called them from work to get directions to where they were going to go watch fireworks (they hadn't known where earlier), they said they were going to swim instead, and Nate only wanted to swim with Jess, so I shouldn't come. As I talked with Jess on the phone, she said that to make up for cancelling on me then, she and I could get together Sunday afternoon when Nate was at work.
I talked with Jess this morning before going to church, and guess what happened? She cancelled on me because she said she was tired and expected to play a game with her parents this afternoon and fight with Nate. I can understand being tired, but I'm upset that this is what happens when she "makes up" for cancelling on me two days ago.
I don't want all of their time. I don't even want half of their free time. I just want a slice of it! Other issues surrounding this couple are even more complicated, but let's suffice it to say that I'm rather upset at Nate for the way he treats Jess and sometimes me. When he's in a good mood, he's great, but when he's not... it can get painful--sometimes physically. It also seems like Jess is giving up on some of her main passions in life so she can be with Nate.
This is so frustrating! I don't know whether to keep actively trying, or if I should take a few steps back and let them come to me when they decide to.
Q: How many poets does it take to change a light bulb? A: 1001...one to change the bulb, 1000 to say it's already been done.