I don't know how normal this is, or even if it is. I have a problem with a certain parent asking me for money, and it has been an ongoing issue since I was 12 years old (I am 43 now). I put my foot down on giving this parent money a long long time ago, but whenever I find myself getting close to this parent again, letting down my guard so to speak, they come around and ask me for money. This time it was for groceries because their credit card wouldn't work. It was a lot of money too. I just couldn't spare that much without using my own credit card I am trying to pay down (due to an emergency a year ago). I worked yet another ten hour shift today and I was tired and they asked me for money and I said no I couldn't afford it and they were completely nice about it and said that's ok but now I feel so horribly guilty, like such a selfish awful daughter. And yet I feel betrayed once again. I don't know what I SHOULD feel. How can I feel both things?
So is it normal for parents to ask their adult children for money? This time it was for food, not something frivolous as it used to be. Or so I think? Which makes it even harder that I turned them down. Maybe if they had asked for less I would have given it. I don't know. I just can't get over these awful juxtaposed feelings I have. I'm going to spend money on my own groceries tomorrow and I keep thinking I should have just given that money to this parent instead. I can get by with what I have for another week until payday. I don't know. I don't trust anyone anymore. :/
So is it normal for parents to ask their adult children for money? This time it was for food, not something frivolous as it used to be. Or so I think? Which makes it even harder that I turned them down. Maybe if they had asked for less I would have given it. I don't know. I just can't get over these awful juxtaposed feelings I have. I'm going to spend money on my own groceries tomorrow and I keep thinking I should have just given that money to this parent instead. I can get by with what I have for another week until payday. I don't know. I don't trust anyone anymore. :/