Okay, No one is answering my sociolocultural questions :P.
- Max Power, interesting about the once-a-month concept; biologically, that makes a lot of sense; though, I agree with the women who added that its more often than that. But that is interesting. And, yes, Ive heard that mens frequent thoughts of sex (and even many mens inability to be monogamous) explained in terms of an innate primal need to plant seeds
-Shethatisnau, I agree all things in moderation; still I think there are dangers (exploitation, harm to the vulnerable) with porn, even soft porn.
-Ceryna, when you say I doubt a SO of mine would have to resort to porn due to lack of interest on my part that often, I wonder if have to is really the issue. I think its less a need for stimulation and more of a lack of something else, say, intimacy, for example, than a sex thing/need that leads people to pornI dont know, Im just throwing around thoughts
- Kiz, I find men beautiful too, but your other point also seems to be true: that men are visually stimulated (easier) and women moreso with words and gestures. I know I am anyway
-HangMan, thats a perspective I hadnt considered insecurityFrankly, Im not sure exactly what you mean; care to expound on that?
-Kpickell, not sure how you interpreted H.Mans post, lol
-monkeyandbunny, I agree with the absolute hypocrisy regarding sex and or morality in America; its almost as bad as the political hypocrisy
-VegAnaconda, Lol! A heap, ha? Hmmm
By the way, thats a pretty sexy avatar! Lol, it looks like a Peta ad is it?
-Epinephrine, I agree with you: I believe porn to be mysoginistic, but I believe it *is* the point
I think its geared toward exploiting women for the satisfaction of men (in general, of course, I realize some women like porn). I do not impose my morality on others and would never force someone to do/not do something (and I dont automatically think someone who watches porn is "bad" etc.); but, personally, for me, a man who watches porn is a turnoff cant help it, thats just me
-LacyKitten this statement But if he wants to look at it when Im not around and available, go for it isnt something I would not go for, lol. I couldnt think that way.
-blueserendipity, this is exactly the time to list them! Im sure your observations would add to the discussion; I'd like to read them.
-ebola, hmmm.first time Ive read a post from you that doesnt answer the question, Lol! Interesting. Care to at some point? :P
-kerouac, thats a good point too. I know someone who broke off a serious relationship because of secret porn watching. I guess it is like cheating in a way, especially if deception is involved. So, while he was doing this, you knew about it? He didnt lie, yet you still felt cheated on?
-ceryna, thats true too; I wouldnt like the feeling of having to put on a performance, lol. Seems men put a lot pressure on themselves with that though performance anxiety is what its called, I think.
-Joe, ahh, an honest answer
That is what I wondered why does he like it: he sees himself in it, right? Okay, that makes sense.
Excellent point about the changes in porn; it does seem a perversity to glamourize anal sex in an age of AIDS, although it is transferred through other acts as well. I suppose the forbidden or taboo is what sells best. But I think its even more perverse to make sex without protection more exciting, in this age since the consequences can now be deadly.