Originally Posted by lucky_charm
Also it is very patronising telling women that they need to be careful all the time in case they get raped. Also and even more importantly, the things a woman can do that will increase her chances of being raped far more than not drinking any more, dressing differently or not going out alone, are things like, getting into a relationship, getting married, or having male friends. You are far far more likely to be raped because you did one of these things than because you drank- the vast majority of women are raped by men they know. Perhaps we should preach total segregation of males and females. That would bring male on female rape to zero!
Agreed, not only is most of the advice doled out supremely unhelpful, but if we followed all of it we'd have to become pretty unreasonably paranoid. I went to the first hit that comes up in a Google search of "how to avoid rape" and a lot of the advice is straight-up crazy
Here are some of their tips:
-Don't use an iPod or cell phone while walking or jogging (everybody who does that gets assaulted, fact
-Yell a lot (if you get scared and freeze up and can't make a sound, it's your own fault!)
-Never take a drink that's offered to you (if your friend offers to get the next round, punch him in the face and yell RAPIST!)
-Be really really suspicious of vans because they're the #1 vehicle used in rapes (citation needed)
-Don't wear your hair in a ponytail (that's my favourite one)
-Get a dog (reasonable, workable advice for everyone!)
Of course, there's no mention of the fact that you're far more likely to be raped by someone you know than by a scary stranger in a van. And then after all that at the very bottom they say "Research data clearly proves that a way a person dresses and/or acts does not influence the rapist's choice of victims.
" Well sheesh, so what the heck is the point of all this advice? Nothing
. It's just a giant list of things that can be used against us if we do get raped and decide to go to the police. "Your Honour, her hair was in a ponytail. Clearly the sex was consensual."