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#1 Old 11-29-2011, 12:12 PM
 
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DEAR AMY: Three years ago when I started dating my husband, I asked him about kids and he said, "I could never have kids." Then I asked about what would happen if I got pregnant, and he said we would raise the child together.

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The problem is that once we got married (five months ago), I realized that having a child is a big priority for me and that I was running out of time.

I knew it was wrong, but I would accidentally-on-purpose skip days of my birth control, eventually ceasing to take the pills at all. I knew that if we had a child, my husband would grow to love it.

The problem was that, after months of this, I never conceived. A few weeks ago, I finally decided to broach the topic again with my husband.

I discovered that he had a vasectomy a year before we met!

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LOL!

I think these individuals are made for each other.
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#2 Old 11-29-2011, 12:15 PM
 
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What do you bet, he gets it reversed?
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Agree they deserve each other.

Withholding that one is infertile or sterilized from your partner before getting married = unbelievable, "accidentally" trying to get pregnant and bring a child into the world that your spouse doesn't want, more believable but equally reprehensible.
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he ain't gonna get it reversed. plus, often that doesn't work.

all praise to him for being so vague and noncommunicative.

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I guess it's best for dishonest people to be together. At least this way they both get a taste of their own medicine.

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Weird.
I wonder how often that happens. I bet it's more often than any of us would imagine.
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Am I the only one who sees the woman's action as much worse here? I do agree the dishonesty was crappy on his part though.

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Her story doesn't make sense. She married a person who said he'd never been able to have children and then expected to get pregnant by sabotaging their birth control?
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What a great relationship.

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What a great relationship.

I can't believe you'd say that. I think it's the exact opposite, to be honest.

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Am I the only one who sees the woman's action as much worse here? I do agree the dishonesty was crappy on his part though.

I agree that what she did was worse.

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Her story doesn't make sense. She married a person who said he'd never been able to have children and then expected to get pregnant by sabotaging their birth control?

I think you may be misunderstanding what he meant by "I could never have kids." His wife (and I'm assuming everyone who has responded in the thread) took it to mean that he didn't want any kids, not that he'd never been able to have them.

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I can't believe you'd say that. I think it's the exact opposite, to be honest.

Thanks for almost making me spit out my drink.

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Thanks for almost making me spit out my drink.

That's what i'm here for. To make the ladies spit out their drinks. it's a thing i'm into.

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I think you may be misunderstanding what he meant by "I could never have kids." His wife (and I'm assuming everyone who has responded in the thread) took it to mean that he didn't want any kids, not that he'd never been able to have them.

I would take it to mean he couldn't have kids. If you don't want kids, you say I don't ever want kids.

I agree, they deserve each other. This is one of the big things that you don't try to change someone's mind on.
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I can't believe you'd say that. I think it's the exact opposite, to be honest.

Yep. He won't speak up and she won't listen....sounds like a pretty workable strategy imo.

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Yep. He won't speak up and she won't listen....sounds like a pretty workable strategy imo.

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I would take it to mean he couldn't have kids. If you don't want kids, you say I don't ever want kids.

Yeah, but the letter also says that she asked him what they would do if she got pregnant, and he said that they would raise the baby. Why would he have said that if he knew he couldn't have kids, unless he was trying to make her believe that he could but just didn't want to?
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Well given the way this played out it should have ended like this:

Wife gets pregnant by husband's friend because she feels betrayed, lonely etc and everyone pretends they don't know what the other one does and that the kid doesn't look like the friend. Kid grows up calling bio dad "uncle ______". How pissed would this guy be raising that kid thinking he had safety, that his sperm was on lock down from this sperm smuggler.
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Well given the way this played out it should have ended like this:

Wife gets pregnant by husband's friend because she feels betrayed, lonely etc and everyone pretends they don't know what the other one does and that the kid doesn't look like the friend. Kid grows up calling bio dad "uncle ______". How pissed would this guy be raising that kid thinking he had safety, that his sperm was on lock down from this sperm smuggler.

Did you really feel the need to post your history???

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Did you really feel the need to post your history???

Well, that bitch did me dirty.
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Am I the only one who sees the woman's action as much worse here? I do agree the dishonesty was crappy on his part though.

I do. He told her he didn't want kids, and she was okay with it, apparently. He should have told her about the vasectomy, so she could have stopped taking birth control, but trying to trick someone into parenthood is really ****ed. That's creating life people, think it through!
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You have to wonder what else they would lie about if they would both be so dishonest about something like birth control.
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I do. He told her he didn't want kids, and she was okay with it, apparently. He should have told her about the vasectomy, so she could have stopped taking birth control, but trying to trick someone into parenthood is really ****ed. That's creating life people, think it through!

Seriously. His lie was absolutely horrible (and confusing, birth control is expensive and annoying, why on earth would he not say anything?) but hers really takes the cake. It takes a special kind of crazy/evil/stupid to try to steal sperm like that. As a woman I would be incredibly filled with rage if my boyfriend 'accidentally' broke/forgot the condom because he wanted a baby and this isn't any better. It's awful for the unwilling parent and especially the child that would be created out of that lunacy.

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Yeah, but the letter also says that she asked him what they would do if she got pregnant, and he said that they would raise the baby. Why would he have said that if he knew he couldn't have kids, unless he was trying to make her believe that he could but just didn't want to?

Because him and his matey had this planned out in advance ...
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Wife gets pregnant by husband's friend because she feels betrayed, lonely etc and everyone pretends they don't know what the other one does and that the kid doesn't look like the friend. Kid grows up calling bio dad "uncle ______".

As Jesus might have said, but didn't, "Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his wife for his friends"
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That's creating life people, think it through!

Ignore the krazee lady people!

Start thinking stuff like that through properly and you will go 'mad' and become unpopular.
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Agree they deserve each other.

Withholding that one is infertile or sterilized from your partner before getting married = unbelievable, "accidentally" trying to get pregnant and bring a child into the world that your spouse doesn't want, more believable but equally reprehensible.

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I hate this stuff. Women who try to trick men bite the big one.

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