If you have any advice on stretching I would like to hear it too. Thanks!
So you think I should go into a new parlor (I am in a new town now) and pick out jewelry and ask them if my ears are ready?
EDIT: yeah she isn't a profressional, she is just into body mods. If it was anything more complicated than a lobe I would have it done by a profressional.
Your lobes are probably taking a longer time to heal because they weren't properly pierced in the first place. If the needle wasn't sharp enough then it probably tore rather than punctured the skin (especially at a 14 G) which is a more difficult injury for you body to heal. If the jewelry wasn't properly cleaned or wasn't the correct metal that could make it harder for your body to heal, if your aftercare instructions included peroxide, etc. then that would take a longer time to heal. There are about 23948203482038 different ways to do it wrong and I wouldn't want to mess with a large guage.
Typically, it takes about a month to heal, and a good way to see this is if your ears are no longer lymphing (the crusty stuff that's on your jewelry) and if you pull whatever is in your ear down a bit, you can see room in beteween it and the fistula.
As for the stretching, there are a couple of ways to do it. You can use a taper, which is usually the most common, you can just push in the larger size plug (I do not reccomend this, even at smaller sizes), and using teflon tape (can be found in the plumbing section for like $.99 at any hardware store or walmart) to wrap around the plug and slowly stretch it by adding a layer or two of tape every day or so. It's common to feel a stinging sensation in your ear.
The online store I buy everything at is called Body Art Forms and I highly reccomend them, as they have high quality tapers and plugs and other jewelry at low prices.
when streaching ears you should typically wait at least a few months on the first streach keep tugging on them the streach the lobe. i suggest to ask for a 12 gauge pincher since your at 14 now. if you are not sure what a pincher is it is like a curved barbell that will slowly streach your ear up to a 12 from a 14. any more questions please msg me
DOD: If I tell the piercer I want to stretch my lobe do you think he/she will recommend a pincher as well?
I must be a slow healer because I've gotten 9 ear piercings and none of them were even close to healed in a month.
DOD: Is this the jewelry you're suggesting? Should I ask a piercer to put this in or is it safe enough to do myself? When I put this in do I center it right away, and do all the stretching initially, or slowly move to stretching it to the center?
Thanks for the replies guys!
I Had Two Ears Pierced, and second ear piercing I had has healed up.
I Had mine done a couple of months ago, and I stretched my ear to see if they have healed, and they did. So the best way is to stretch your ear and if you can see or feel a hole then it hasn't healed up, if you cant see are fell a hole than get it done a again,
But the best way is to stretch your ear, and if that doesn't send ME A MESSAGE AND I WILL GIVE YOU SOME MORE ADVICE.
Hoped this helped.