Birdlady writes "This is getting to hurting my feelings because it's more about your supporting of the opoids."
I'm trying to support your mother not opioids, whom I feel you may possibly be harming as a result of not supporting opioids being prescribed for her, by doctors who may very well be giving her the very best treatment that is available, in this regard, or who may be offering opioids without adequate psychological support. I just want you to consider those possibilities, that's all. Before you jump to any conclusions.
Also, since I have an illness for which opioids have been prescribed, I would like it if my family would be more supportive of me in my decision to use them, instead of making negative assumpitions, based on cultural values (such as the one's ebola cited, above ), which are not borne out by the scientific facts. However if the patient herself has such negative values, they will predispose her to psychological harm. That is why psychological evaluation is recommended. Psychological counseling for family members, in regard to how to interact with a family member in dying, in pain, and taking opioids to relieve the pain, would perhaps be a good idea also.
Indeed, the multi-discipline pain center which prescribed them for me inisted on a psychological interview with me before prescribing them, and wanted to know how I was going to explain things to my family members.
birdlady writes "I wanted more input on the ill effects that DO exist whether."
Your original message did not say that, it said "Does anyone know the long term emotional and psychological effects" so I tried to present a balanced view of both the negative and positive effects. If you only want to learn about the negative effects, that is your choice, and I will limit my comments to telling you only about the negative effects. That will not be conducive to your learning the truth, and the whole truth, however.
bl: "It IS a fact that painkillers do addict and I never said it was something I was complaining about. If for any reason she had to go off of them they would have to wean her off with other things for sure."
Pain specialists tend to call the fact that one has unpleasant symtoms as a result of simply stopping opioids, "dependence" rather than "addiction." "Addiction" is what they call it when the person harms their self, in the process of obtaining or using the drug, in a way not according to how they prescribed that the drug be used. I don't necessarily agree with these definitions, but these are the definitions pain doctors use, which differ somewhat from the terms' usage in general parlance. Indeed, if your mother had to go off them, which is not likely if she has a terminal illness, she should be weaned off slowly. Other drugs may help but may not be entirely necessary.