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#1 Old 11-27-2016, 10:30 AM
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I'm a pretty peaceful vegetarian and like to keep to myself, meaning I don't push my lifestyle onto others, so I feel like in a way I deserve the same respect. My family, despite knowing I've been a vegetarian for a year now, continue to say and do obliviously rude things and pretend like they forget I don't eat meat.

For example, I visited my family for Thanksgiving and my dad proceeded to tell me about how his step son killed a deer and how the meat is great, etc and proceeded to try and show me. It was the first time I snapped at him because again, I turn a blind eye even while they're eating turkey or any meat in front of me, because it grosses me out but I don't have a right to tell them what to eat in their own house. So anyway, I yelled at him and told him he knows I'm a vegetarian and I find it incredibly disrespectful that he does things like that to me. All he does is smile and laugh about it.

My family will do similar things to me when I visit, like offer me food with meat in it and laugh and tell me it's really good, and I just force a fake laugh and say no thank you.

How do you guys deal with family who push meat on you or do rude things like that? I try to stress to them that it really grosses me out and hurts my feelings when they do that, they'll apologize, but they'll do the same thing the next time.

So frustrating..
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#2 Old 11-27-2016, 10:46 AM
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You have tried reacting pleasantly to them. How about not reacting at all? They say or do something rude or stupid and you just walk away. Do not say anything. Do not change the expression on your face. Act as if they aren't even there. They are being rude because they get a reaction from you.
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Why do you feel obligated to kiss a**. You're right, they can do what they please in their household, but you can also do as you please. If anyone treated me that way, they would either learn to respect me, or they wouldn't see me.
Why do you feel you deserve less respect than what you give?
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You have tried reacting pleasantly to them. How about not reacting at all? They say or do something rude or stupid and you just walk away. Do not say anything. Do not change the expression on your face. Act as if they aren't even there. They are being rude because they get a reaction from you.
I agree they're doing this to get a reaction from you. They see how it bothers you and they think it's hilarious, don't give them that satisfaction.

I used to get picked on for being vegetarian when I was younger and I was picked on a lot in general at school, it stopped when I got more confident in myself and my beliefs and started projecting strength instead of weakness. I'm betting if you just rolled your eyes at your dad and changed the subject he'd eventually stop bringing stuff like that up. I know it's easier said than done but with practice you learn to act detached even if you don't feel it. That's why I love Veggieboards, I can save all my ranting for here with people who understand.
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Thanks guys. Haven't had any issues lately but will just ignore the next attempt at irritating me
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