Sexual inappropriateness within the family is almost never an accident. On some level, it's always a deliberate, manipulative act. The perpetrator may not be fully aware of their own motivations, but that does not absolve them of responsibility.
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Yuck all around. *hugs* I'm so very sorry that you are going through this.
As freaky it may be, I would try to speak to my dad (in a public room) and tell him that you found an inappropriate photo of him on your camera and that he is not to use your camera again.
As far as his nasty comments, same thing. Tell him then and there that his comments are not appropriate and that you are unappreciative of his words.
Agreed 100%.Originally Posted by wonderrandy
Our habit of moralizing problems, merging them with intuitions of purity and contamination, and resting content when we feel the right feelings, can get in the way of doing the right thing. ~ Steven Pinker
I rescind what I said in my previous post about jumping to conclusions.
First, as you've gotten older over the past couple of years, your dad has been making jokes, comments, and lewd remarks about your body. I assume you are 18-20 years old. Secondly, within a week before you are ready to leave for boot camp he takes nude photos of himself with your camera and does not delete them. I do not believe this is a coincidence.
I would tell a trusted relative or your mother before you leave. Some mothers are in denial about their spouses inappropriate behavior towards their children when they initially find out. However she may already be aware of his jokes, comments, and the way he looks at your body. When she finds out about the pictures she may become your biggest ally. Mothers tend to be when it comes to protecting the safety of their children.
*big hug* ripvanfish. I agree with many to be up front or find someone you trust to talk too. Good luck to you in boot camp.
I've accidentally not deleted pornography off of a shared computer once, even though I was always very good at it and pretty techno savvy, so it's entirely possible that it was an accident on your father's part. Maybe your mum knows about it because it was a picture for her?
It does, unfortunately, sound as though it's something far more creepy. What a ****ty situation
Leave home ASAP. That's what I'd do.
Definately say something now. It could help prevent your father from doing something even more inappropriate in the future if he gets the chance. It seems like he is pushing over the boundary line to see how far you will let him go over it.
There's a stranger speaks outside her door/Says take what you can from your dreams/Make them as real as anything/Oh It'd take the work out of courage/But she says "Please/There's a crazy man that's creeping outside my door,/I live on the corner of Grey Street/and the end of the world." (greystreet, Dave Matthews Band)
I would be very concerned about what he also might be doing to other female family members. Just walking away from this might be harmful to others...I know this is so difficult for you already, I can't even imagine. You do need to think about others though...knowing what you now possibly know...
This is very disturbing and, like others have said, it seems your father's true nature may not be known to you. I would be worried about what he is doing outside of the home. He KNEW this was your camera and he also has made dirty comments about you. To your face!!!
You should know this is a form of sexual misconduct. You need to tell somebody soon. I would say definitely your mother, even if it embarassing. Or if you can't work up the nerve yet speak to a counselor or something.
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