Disgusted by bizarre situation... Unsure what to do.

[LyricGaia]

*great big hugs* you have to deal with this Directly, urgently, and before you leave. With other people around... I don't think i'd deal with it with him alone.

[4EverGrounded]

I don't know, my dad has never done anything like this... Although as I've gotten older, in the last couple years, he's become increasingly open in making jokes and comments of a lewd nature, and comments about my body, that make me really uncomfortable.

That really jumped out at me, screaming "sexual predator". I would tell them both, at the same time about the pictures, with stern warning to the dad that if he EVER does anything like this again, there will be police involved.

And probably for good measure, I'd throw in something about how his lewd comments are being documented so he better watch his arse from now on.

Just because he's your father doesn't mean he has the right to cross boundaries - it doesn't matter how old you are. A boundary is a boundary and he should respect that.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this but I'm sorrier still that your father has put you in this position.

[Marie]

I agree. He needs a smack, not a crucifixion. Something like this getting out in the family could create some pretty severe and permanent damage to all of their relationships.

If anything gets damaged he's the one who did the damage.

[WonderRandy]

As someone who was victimized by a "father" figure, I'm of the opinion that this was NOT an accident. He deliberately put that picture on your camera, so that you would see it, and so that you would see him as a sexual being. It was manipulative, deliberate, and flat out abusive. It took me twenty years to recognize what had happened to me was abuse, and I suffered the entire time. Confront the issue now. Find a way. Don't let his sick manipulative power play succeed.

[kali]

thats nasty rip, it mustve really freaked you out

My first reaction is that I would get the whole family together and bring this up. When I had a problem with my mom's boyfriend, she was not sympathetic. But my mom was screwed up. Hopefully yours isn't. But you often don't know til you put them to the test. Lots of mothers fail this test. That's why if I had that to do over again, I would have discussed it in front of everyone.

as embarrassing and uncomfortable as this will be, i agree that this would be the best option. as long as your dad has no history of violence or aggression that is. i think it might be best to leave it until after youve returned from boot camp otherwise your dad will have an opportunity to talk your mum around while you are away to make it seem like it never happened.

I don't know, my dad has never done anything like this... Although as I've gotten older, in the last couple years, he's become increasingly open in making jokes and comments of a lewd nature, and comments about my body, that make me really uncomfortable.

thats a massive red flag. it seems like your dad could have some sexual issues.

I already deleted the picture... Actually, I had to have one of my guy friends delete it for me, because I couldn't look at it long enough to delete it. I'm pretty confident my mom will believe me if I tell her, though.

its a shame you deleted it cuz that was evidence. your mum wouldve had no choice but to believe you.

[AussieShane]

I see a lot of ppl jumping to conclusions on here. Rip, I don't know your situation but here are some possibilities I can think of which differ to the worst case scenario of your father having some sexual issue...

1. He accidentally didn't delete the photo. This commonly happens to me where I think I hit delete but actually hit 'next' and either way it goes to the next photo.

2. Was it an intimate photo directed at someone or was it anatomical analysis?...E.g After I do a pre-footy season strength gain cycle at the gym, I take photos purely to analyze my body anatomy and what I need to improve. Some of these are nude...

[Skylark]

its a shame you deleted it cuz that was evidence. your mum wouldve had no choice but to believe you.

Not quite. The mother could have chosen to believe Ripvanfish took the picture herself and then got mad and decided to frame the father. Most/all of us here would still place the blame on the father even if that had happened, because he's the bonafide adult here, but the "innocent" parent in these situations often blames the child rather than their spouse/partner.

[luvourmother]

sorry that you have to deal with this at the same time as you are getting ready to leave!

if you are not ready to say anything about the picture directly, maybe consider mentioning to your family or dad that they need to ask permission from you before using your camera.

however, it is very curious as to why he was taking naked pictures anyways....
was it for you to find, or did he send it to someone else, both reasons your mom needs to know about! are your parents frisky? maybe the pics were for her (i hope). either way, please say something at least about not using your camera in general.

good luck and be brave!

[dormouse]

Wow, I'm sorry you have to deal with this, ripvanfish. I really don't know whether it was a mistake or intentional, but I think it's in your best interest to find out. My first reaction was to advise you to just go to your dad and say, "please don't use my camera ever again."

But, it sounds like YOU think it was intentionally left there, because he did scroll through the pictures. If so, he's probably counting on your being too uncomfortable to speak up.

[icepick]

I see a lot of ppl jumping to conclusions on here. Rip, I don't know your situation but here are some possibilities I can think of which differ to the worst case scenario of your father having some sexual issue...

1. He accidentally didn't delete the photo. This commonly happens to me where I think I hit delete but actually hit 'next' and either way it goes to the next photo.

2. Was it an intimate photo directed at someone or was it anatomical analysis?...E.g After I do a pre-footy season strength gain cycle at the gym, I take photos purely to analyze my body anatomy and what I need to improve. Some of these are nude...

I agree with Shane about ppl being too quick to jump to conclusions. Although it is unusal for a father to use his daughters camera to take nude photos. It raises some possible red flags.